A continual source of frustration

[Rick M]

One reason I rely on professionals vs. "normal" dating or hookups is because no one online seems to be sincerely interested in meeting another human in the flesh. Choose any dating/social app or site (ANY--they are all the same as far as I can tell) and I can attest to receiving there strongly worded appeals to get together. There is some back and forth as terms are refined, but at some mystical moment--usually at the fixing of an appointed place and time--the perpetrator vanishes. Such an instigator is like a (pretend) golfer who whacks the ball on the first tee and then declares "I'm done!" without ever getting near (ahem!) a hole. This isn't flirtation; this is psychological abuse. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? Apologies for my vehemence.

[+ Coolwave35]

I like hooking up once a month. I like talking and thinking about hooking up every day. I’m afraid that if you got me on one of the 29 days I wasn’t looking to hook up I’d have been the source of your frustration. Sorry!

[lonely_john]

One reason I rely on professionals vs. "normal" dating or hookups is because no one online seems to be sincerely interested in meeting another human in the flesh. Choose any dating/social app or site (ANY--they are all the same as far as I can tell) and I can attest to receiving there strongly worded appeals to get together. There is some back and forth as terms are refined, but at some mystical moment--usually at the fixing of an appointed place and time--the perpetrator vanishes. Such an instigator is like a (pretend) golfer who whacks the ball on the first tee and then declares "I'm done!" without ever getting near (ahem!) a hole. This isn't flirtation; this is psychological abuse. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? Apologies for my vehemence.

 

It’s a North American disease (superficial monetized culture). Especially if you interact with Millennials, a generation flooded with mental issues, but I would say that in general people are always looking for the “best next thing” and will flake on you unless they can get something from you (dinner, movies, concert) or if there is nothing better to do, OR, there are also the serial flakers. It’s not that they are bad people, it’s just that they are mentally ill. Meeting in person, a real person, it’s become a titanic task for them, they have become that lazy thanks to social media. Binging Netflix all night at their home is psychologically more rewarding and a lot less work than meeting in-person in the real world. That’s why I don’t look at those apps anymore and relay mostly on doublelist, reddit or Rentmen where you know what you are getting into. Even Squirt that used to be good has become that flakey. Older people have also gotten the social disease. When I travel to South America and get into the Social Apps, that’s a completely different story. Horny dogs all over! ?

Edited February 29, 2020 by lonely_john

[+ easygoingpal]

When I travel to South America and get into the Social Apps, that’s a completely different story. Horny dogs all over! ?

Thumbs up!

[Rick M]

I like hooking up once a month. I like talking and thinking about hooking up every day. I’m afraid that if you got me on one of the 29 days I wasn’t looking to hook up I’d have been the source of your frustration. Sorry!

I should hope that if you are suddenly "called away" from a negotiation for whatever reason that you politely wrap it up, even in a superficial manner, with an excuse like "I just remembered--I have a dinner date tonight" or "Excuse me, gotta run, the cat's on fire" rather than leave the other person dangling.

[+ Coolwave35]

I should hope that if you are suddenly "called away" from a negotiation for whatever reason that you politely wrap it up, even in a superficial manner, with an excuse like "I just remembered--I have a dinner date tonight" or "Excuse me, gotta run, the cat's on fire" rather than leave the other person dangling.

 

Well that is certainly a better approach than the one I have taken before today. Thank you for the education.

[MrMattBig]

One reason I rely on professionals vs. "normal" dating or hookups is because no one online seems to be sincerely interested in meeting another human in the flesh. Choose any dating/social app or site (ANY--they are all the same as far as I can tell) and I can attest to receiving there strongly worded appeals to get together. There is some back and forth as terms are refined, but at some mystical moment--usually at the fixing of an appointed place and time--the perpetrator vanishes. Such an instigator is like a (pretend) golfer who whacks the ball on the first tee and then declares "I'm done!" without ever getting near (ahem!) a hole. This isn't flirtation; this is psychological abuse. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? Apologies for my vehemence.

Sorry for your frustrations ?

Just imagine if this behavior from other people affected your ability to earn a living, on top of the frustrations you have experienced.

Every. Single. Day.

#lifeofanescort

[MrMattBig]

This why, especially in non hiring hookups, I always state my potential availability and ask the same from them in the relative beginning.

If they follow up with asking a question about something else or are too vague, I typically ignore them or follow by saying somethings come up but if they let me know typically when they might be available in the future to hit me back up then and we can work something out.

If someone can't be generally specific about availability at the beginning (now before 4pm, tomorrow mid afternoon, usually weekends, usually daytime, etc) I put almost zero stock in actually being able to meet them.