An escort I know is retiring

[starman05]

I think there’s a window where I can see him one last time

 

The debate is will it hurt more in the end if I see him again or if I just cherish past memories

 

On a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of making me feel great, he’s an 857, easily.

 

I know what I need to do but what would you do?

[DaveOrDavid]

I think there’s a window where I can see him one last time

 

The debate is will it hurt more in the end if I see him again or if I just cherish past memories

 

On a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of making me feel great, he’s an 857, easily.

 

I know what I need to do but what would you do?

Personally for me I feel it would help to give closure if you know in advance that it would probably be your last meeting especially if you experienced a good relationship with repeat meetings. Good relationships that are worthy of repeat meetings are important.

 

I recently experienced the same situation where we had a good repeat relationship and I procrastinated on setting up another appointment, then an opportunity came to light for my guy to move on. I would like to have had another meeting knowing it would probably not happen again in the future instead of being caught off guard and not have an option for a potential additional meeting. Things always change, but I wish him all the best.

[+ Just Sayin]

go for it; life is short; you do not want to have regrets!

[KeepItReal]

I think there’s a window where I can see him one last time

 

The debate is will it hurt more in the end if I see him again or if I just cherish past memories

 

On a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of making me feel great, he’s an 857, easily.

 

I know what I need to do but what would you do?

I won't let the opportunity pass me by....

 

[Gymowner]

invite him to a nice dinner and drinks, pay him for his time and reminisce over past experiences. you end up being one fine classy gentleman in his mind and he may even from that kindness, get turned on and initiate a little "dessert". if he doesn't and thanks you for a nice time with a hug, then you know that he is truly winding down and chances are the session would not have been as memorable as the last ones. many times when someone knows they are getting out of their respective field they just dont "give it their all" to the finish line.

 

either way....you end up a winner closing down a memorable relationship of sorts and not the loser of a very forgettable session.

Edited December 1, 2019 by Gymowner

[marylander1940]

I think there’s a window where I can see him one last time

 

The debate is will it hurt more in the end if I see him again or if I just cherish past memories

 

On a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of making me feel great, he’s an 857, easily.

 

I know what I need to do but what would you do?

 

I don't know why is he retiring but maybe he could keep on seeing you... a little cash on the side never hurts.

[Gymowner]

you are right marylander. many escorts keep seeing specific clients after they "retire". the comradery, extra cash and a little extra alternative "fun" if they are now in a relationship is what its all about for them.

[starman05]

All great advice, I’d love to be kept on as a special client but I do have every reason to believe that he’s moving on. I think I need to say goodbye to him too. If it were to continue I think I’d end up falling for him. It’s rare to have a chance to say goodbye. We can all relate to abruptly losing someone or being ghosted. If I get that last goodbye and it’s sweet then I have a nice memory for life. If it doesn’t happen, I still have some sweet memories. Either way, I’ll miss him. Thx for feedback and responses.

[+ JEC]

ABSOLUTELY go for it. I wished I had one more meet with Axel Hardy before he retired. Book as much time as you can afford. make it very special (massage? shower? toys? kinks? candles? pillow talk time? all of the above?), and cherish the memories.

[+ Gar1eth]

I saw a guy for two years. For those two years I usually saw him for an overnight or a weekend every two to three months. And we often texted each a few times a month in between our meetings. I knew from the beginning it would end because of my loss of career-and that I would eventually run out of money.

 

 

Towards the end of the two years when my money for hiring was about to run out, I would get melancholic during our meetings. I think I hId it well. But I'm glad I continued to see him as long as I was able to. I don't think it really brought me any closure. But he gave me a lot of fun -both inside and outside the bedroom-that I wouldn't have otherwise had.

 

Gman

[littlenut]

I would definitely see him one last time. I’ve recently had a couple of “regulars” (2 or 3 visits a year) retire without warning. I wish I had known that it would be the last time so I could have said a last goodbye, and let them know how they made me feel and how much happiness they provided. Or maybe I just like closure. But I do wish I had a final session with both.

[+ oldNbusted]

I definitely would go for another meeting.

[+ easygoingpal]

Great advice by all... My two cents: Do see him and add some sweet lasting memories to the ones you already have. If he allows it, perhaps take a picture of you two together before parting. Best...!

Edited December 1, 2019 by easygoingpal

[rvwnsd]

I would definitely see him again.

[beachboy]

Go for it. I've already arranged with a provider that before he retires he'll contact me so we can have a final meet-let him go with a bang!

[David1024]

I had a nice relationship with a provider end abruptly due to a change in his circumstances and always regretted not being able enjoy that last moment. I would definitely see him again and cherish the experience.

[+ purplekow]

I am in the definitely see him again category. I would let him know that you would love to continue to have some type of relationship after he has retired. As we get older, we tend to have fewer and fewer people in our lives. In this age of easy communication, I would ask him if he would be interested in texting or talking or getting together in some other capacity.

I am friends with three former escorts who have retired. One I speak to occasionally on the phone and every few months we have lunch or spend a day. Another, is a man I am Facebook friends with under his personal account and we private message on that forum. He lives across the continent, so we do no see each other, though he knows he has an open dinner invitation anytime he is on my coast. The third is someone who calls me regularly, usually for medical advice. He also does dog rescue and twice he has called to ask me to consider adopting a dog. I have adopted both. He brings them up north from Florida. We spend a few days together. He still looks great. He stays at my home and I think we both enjoy his unclad struts from the shower to his room. I am always tempted to offer to pay for a session, but in reality, he is mostly straight and has limits that were once fine with me but now would be unacceptable.

So grab your opportunity. Maybe there can be more. If not, be sure to tell him the significance he has had in your life. Validation is rare and it is a beautiful gift.

[marylander1940]

Is he retiring for good or is he retiring to come back later like Sean Xavier? He retired twice (engagement and getting his degree) and now is on his 3rd return to business

[Todd Jenkins]

May I ask who the guy is retiring? Might want to book BEFORE he goes away!

[Guest]

I know of couple escorts that should retire...

[queensboroboy]

Go for it and try something new or something you’ve thought about trying.

[starman05]

So...just to give an update, and I appreciate everyone's input, we were in touch and he was open to seeing me one last time. The ball was in my court. Then, the court shut down and no one can be within 6 ft. of one another. Ironical.

 

But I had made my decision as to what I was going to do. And maybe still will do someday in the future if the stars align.

 

Here's a Joss Whedon quote from his run on the X-Men from Kitty Pryde:

 

Everything is so fragile. There's so much conflict, so much pain...you keep waiting for the dust to settle and then you realize this is it; the dust is your life going on. If happy comes along--that weird, unbearable delight that's actual happy--I think you have to grab it while you can.

 

Thanks, guys.

[+ purplekow]

Sorry that the window seems to have closed but time can play funny tricks. Keep his memory warm in your mind and perhaps some day you will have his body to keep warm in your bed.

Edited April 19, 2020 by purplekow

[starman05]

Sorry that the window seems to have closed but time can play funny tricks. Keep his memory warm in you mind and perhaps some day you will have his body to keep warm in your bed.

 

thanks PK. I'm old enough to know that if you wait long enough ANYTHING can happen; including this nightmare finally passing someday. In the meantime, I have memories to keep me warm. More than anything, this guy got inside my head and treated me with kindness.

 

Nothing can take that away.

[Guest]

 

Everything is so fragile. There's so much conflict, so much pain...you keep waiting for the dust to settle and then you realize this is it; the dust is your life going on. If happy comes along--that weird, unbearable delight that's actual happy--I think you have to grab it while you can.

 

Thanks, guys.

 

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