Dating

[+ Kman]

So I've been dating guys has picked up a lot since this last summer and I'm taking a very laid back approach, where I want to just get to know the guy. The dates have come from apps so I specify that is what I'm looking very early on...even saying I'm good with being just friends too...and most guys are all in agreement and saying they are looking for the same thing...but then we meet and that goes out the window suddenly they just wanted a hook up to there wasn't a

connection and we can't meet again....is this just the dating culture now or what?

[marylander1940]

So I've been dating guys has picked up a lot since this last summer and I'm taking a very laid back approach, where I want to just get to know the guy. The dates have come from apps so I specify that is what I'm looking very early on...even saying I'm good with being just friends too...and most guys are all in agreement and saying they are looking for the same thing...but then we meet and that goes out the window suddenly they just wanted a hook up to there wasn't a

connection and we can't meet again....is this just the dating culture now or what?

 

Whoever came up with the expression "no expectations" for a hookup app or a site like manhunt should be paid royalties. I wonder if that's an euphemism for not "promiscuous", whatever that word means in the gay community.

 

So many guys on "open relationships" that's something that has changed a lot, specially married guys...

[+ Kman]

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Whoever came up with the expression "no expectations" for a hookup app or a site like manhunt should be paid royalties. I wonder if that's an euphemism for not "promiscuous", whatever that word means in the gay community.

 

So many guys on "open relationships" that's something that has changed a lot, specially married guys...

 

Actually, I think 'no expectations' would mean you are more promicuous...they are open to being the married guy's buddy...but yes more gus are in open relationships.

[marylander1940]

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Actually, I think 'no expectations' would mean you are more promicuous...they are open to being the married guy's buddy...but yes more gus are in open relationships.

 

I've always read it as no expectations for anything other than getting laid, usually it goes this way: "looking for more, no expectations".

[+ quoththeraven]

Gay, straight or otherwise, dating apps are primarily hook up apps. i wouldn't go into it expecting anything more from it. If anything more happens, it'll be a happy surprise.

[MassageDrew]

I agree. Dating apps are really nothing more than hookup apps. Ther only expectation you should have is sex. They'll tell you what you want to hear to get you in the door. Once sex happens they're gone. I meet more guys who genuinely want to get to know each other at the bars more than the apps.

[Tangogent]

In the past, "sleeping around" meant someone came to your place [or the reverse], you had sex and then fell asleep in each other's arms. You woke up together and, if there was a bit of chemistry, had breakfast together: a nice start to "something more". Nobody "sleeps around" anymore; they meet, have sex and leave. There goes the intimacy.

[+ EVdude]

In the past, "sleeping around" meant someone came to your place [or the reverse], you had sex and then fell asleep in each other's arms. You woke up together and, if there was a bit of chemistry, had breakfast together: a nice start to "something more". Nobody "sleeps around" anymore; they meet, have sex and leave. There goes the intimacy.

Well stated!! I sometimes pine for my “sleeping around” 30s. Those were the days of AOL chat rooms, and no Uber. You made the most it once you finally “hooked up”.

[RealAvalon]

So I've been dating guys has picked up a lot since this last summer and I'm taking a very laid back approach, where I want to just get to know the guy. The dates have come from apps so I specify that is what I'm looking very early on...even saying I'm good with being just friends too...and most guys are all in agreement and saying they are looking for the same thing...but then we meet and that goes out the window suddenly they just wanted a hook up to there wasn't a

connection and we can't meet again....is this just the dating culture now or what?

My impression from a lot of on-line meet up sites is that men, in general, want to meet men that are younger and more attractive than they are. Correct me if I am wrong on that. I guess that's often the case when men are looking for either a woman or a man.

 

Social media just feeds the bias. When you aren't physically in front of someone and seeing their animated self, it's even easier to reject someone out of hand. And I'm probably just stating the obvious with this post.

 

Who on here has chosen someone on a dating app that is older than you, that you considered to be less attractive than you, when there was no monetary reward involved?

Edited December 3, 2019 by RealAvalon

[MrMattBig]

My impression from a lot of on-line meet up sites is that men, in general, want to meet men that are younger and more attractive then they are. Correct me if I am wrong on that. I guess that's often the case when men are looking for either a woman or a man.

 

Social media just feeds the bias. When you aren't physically in front of someone and seeing their animated self, it's even easier to reject someone out of hand. And I'm probably just stating the obvious with this post.

 

Who on here has chosen someone on a dating app that is older than you, that you considered to be less attractive than you, when there was no monetary reward involved?

For me fairly often when I am not busy with appointments. With women I love curvy girls and older women, and with men a thick cut cock. With both I value entertaining certain kinks. It's so annoying to me when people focus so much on looks especially facially. Yeah, a hot face is always nice to look at when cumming, but a steamy encounter and intense orgasm is so much more than staring at someone's face.

[MrMattBig]

My impression from a lot of on-line meet up sites is that men, in general, want to meet men that are younger and more attractive then they are. Correct me if I am wrong on that. I guess that's often the case when men are looking for either a woman or a man.

 

Social media just feeds the bias. When you aren't physically in front of someone and seeing their animated self, it's even easier to reject someone out of hand. And I'm probably just stating the obvious with this post.

 

Who on here has chosen someone on a dating app that is older than you, that you considered to be less attractive than you, when there was no monetary reward involved?

For me fairly often when I am not busy with appointments. With women I love curvy girls and older women, and with men a thick cut cock. With both I value entertaining certain kinks. It's so annoying to me when people focus so much on looks especially facially. Yeah, a hot face is always nice to look at when cumming, but a steamy encounter and intense orgasm is so much more than staring at someone's face.

[RealAvalon]

For me fairly often when I am not busy with appointments. With women I love curvy girls and older women, and with men a thick cut cock. With both I value entertaining certain kinks. It's so annoying to me when people focus so much on looks especially facially. Yeah, a hot face is always nice to look at when cumming, but a steamy encounter and intense orgasm is so much more than staring at someone's face.

Ah … well … I expect you'll be getting a lot of PM's …

[RealAvalon]

For me fairly often when I am not busy with appointments. With women I love curvy girls and older women, and with men a thick cut cock. With both I value entertaining certain kinks. It's so annoying to me when people focus so much on looks especially facially. Yeah, a hot face is always nice to look at when cumming, but a steamy encounter and intense orgasm is so much more than staring at someone's face.

Ah … well … I expect you'll be getting a lot of PM's …

[MrMattBig]

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Actually, I think 'no expectations' would mean you are more promicuous...they are open to being the married guy's buddy...but yes more gus are in open relationships.

My opinion and part experience is "no expectations" means they want to reserve the right to make it into whatever they are feeling once you walk in the door.

Escorting I have had guys be like " if I'm not feeling how you look when you get here is it ok if I just leave" . I would imagine a no expectation line in a dating profile of theirs. I have also been turned down by a hot Russian female model once on adult Friend finder for being shorter than she thought once she came to my place. Also had no expectation hookups turn into brief relationships.

Just a curt way of saying I may change my motive behind meeting you and be cool with that.

[MrMattBig]

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Actually, I think 'no expectations' would mean you are more promicuous...they are open to being the married guy's buddy...but yes more gus are in open relationships.

My opinion and part experience is "no expectations" means they want to reserve the right to make it into whatever they are feeling once you walk in the door.

Escorting I have had guys be like " if I'm not feeling how you look when you get here is it ok if I just leave" . I would imagine a no expectation line in a dating profile of theirs. I have also been turned down by a hot Russian female model once on adult Friend finder for being shorter than she thought once she came to my place. Also had no expectation hookups turn into brief relationships.

Just a curt way of saying I may change my motive behind meeting you and be cool with that.

[samhexum]

I'm sick of everything on my iPhone. Are there any must-have apps you've encountered that you really enjoy?

other than Grindr and Scruff what other such apps do you guys recommend?Thanks!

Strike #1. I finally got back on the apps with my usual luck. Then comes STEEE-RIKE #2 this evening. I had had in my profile I couldn’t host. I took it out. But I thought we had discussed it. We hadn’t. We had arranged to meet 10 minutes ago until I found out he couldn’t host either.

Just a routine night on the apps for me.

Went to cumunion last night, at least a hundred men there, and a half of them, the young ones, on their phones (grndr, scruff, bbrt) barely making contact. What the fuck. They're looking for sex on an app while at the bathhouse? Why?

The dates have come from apps so I specify that is what I'm looking very early on...even saying I'm good with being just friends too...and most guys are all in agreement and saying they are looking for the same thing...but then we meet and that goes out the window suddenly they just wanted a hook up to there wasn't a connection and we can't meet again....is this just the dating culture now or what?

I suspect others have asked similar, but cannot find appropriate threads... Spending a lot more time on my iPhone the past few weeks; anyone have any apps to recommend??

[Rudynate]

So I've been dating guys has picked up a lot since this last summer and I'm taking a very laid back approach, where I want to just get to know the guy. The dates have come from apps so I specify that is what I'm looking very early on...even saying I'm good with being just friends too...and most guys are all in agreement and saying they are looking for the same thing...but then we meet and that goes out the window suddenly they just wanted a hook up to there wasn't a

connection and we can't meet again....is this just the dating culture now or what?

So I've been dating guys has picked up a lot since this last summer and I'm taking a very laid back approach, where I want to just get to know the guy. The dates have come from apps so I specify that is what I'm looking very early on...even saying I'm good with being just friends too...and most guys are all in agreement and saying they are looking for the same thing...but then we meet and that goes out the window suddenly they just wanted a hook up to there wasn't a

connection and we can't meet again....is this just the dating culture now or what?

 

 

It's always been that way. Hookup apps are just a force multiplier. During AIDS, I tried to just date and get to know guys, but more often than not, we ended up in bed on the first date. It takes a lot of restraint.