Have you ever paid for your client’s dinner/drinks?

[hwic04]

I’ve arranged a weekend with an escort with whom I’ve met before. We have great chemistry personally and sexually. He’s a quality guy in every way, extremely intelligent, has a graduate degree, and very personable. I’ll be flying him in and have told him that all expenses (meals/drinks/etc.) are on me as they should be.

 

My question to you guys is under these or other circumstances have you ever picked up a tab for dinner, e.g., as either a legitimate expression of thanks or to further the relationship in the hopes of repeat business with a client? I’m not expecting such an offer during the weekend but am curious if that’s ever something that happens when the escort-client relationship is mutually an excellent one.

[hypothetically]

My question to you guys is under these or other circumstances have you ever picked up a tab for dinner, e.g., as either a legitimate expression of thanks or to further the relationship in the hopes of repeat business with a client?

 

If the escort is picking up the tab in hopes of repeat business, is his “gratitude” purely authentic?

 

It’s up to the discretion of the escort to choose whether or not to “pick up the tab” or cover any other expenses during your time together, whether brief or extended. Would I anticipate it? No.

 

Does it happen, of course.

[MscleLovr]

As a former client, I’ve had two occasions where the young escort insisted on picking up the check for dinner. In each case I’d had several dates with the young man before this happened.

 

I appreciated the gesture, and perhaps it was to signal that a continuing relationship would be welcome.

[Chuckball]

I had an escort that invited me to spend the night and meals that he had coming from comp points at a casino. Of course, I paid him his overnight rate but I really appreciated the offer. I don't think it was to ensure future business. I feel it was because we enjoy each other's company even out of the bedroom.

[Guest Calix_K]

I've bought breakfast post-overnight sessions in hotel restaurants and have found that if dinner out is involved, it's fun to pick up the dessert/coffee bill if the client is interested in any. It's just a nice end to dinner and I do love me a little coffee after dinner, so why not? That works for me, but everyone is different!

[+ poolboy48220]

I met a dancer from Gold Coast for lunch and he insisted on picking up the tab. I've taken a few others out for dinner and I've paid. I can only think of one time, offhand, where I dined with an actual escort, and I paid the tab.

[+ keroscenefire]

I have an arrangement with a regular of mine where I pay for longer sessions often including a date to a theater performance and dinner. I always pay for the tickets to the play and we have always (except for the first time we did this) go Dutch on dinner. This was his suggestion as he knows I work in education and am not some super-rich executive, knows that I have good connections to good theater events in town that he enjoys and knows he is still getting a pretty good extended rate of at least $100 an hour for a four-five hour session. I don't think I'd balk at paying for dinner, since we usually go to fairly affordable ethnic restaurants, but it's nice that he is being considerate of my money. Plus he knows that I'm almost a guarantee client every time he comes into town.

[+ Reisr30]

I have always paid for dinner when meeting a companion if I suggest going out to dinner. They have not offered to pay for drinks or dinner and I never expected them to do so. I guess I haven’t met with one where there’s that level of connection...

[big-n-tall]

With some of my regulars, we tend to go dutch, but there are times I will pay for the entire meal and others they will.

[+ WestGuy]

I'm wondering why @westldnguy thought this comment was "insulting"

 

i was wondering the same thing! I actually found the comment to to be very sweet and it speaks well of calix_k.

[instudiocity]

i was wondering the same thing! I actually found the comment to to be very sweet and it speaks well of calix_k.

Declassé?

[+ westldnguy]

I'm wondering why @westldnguy thought this comment was "insulting"

 

This wasn’t intentional

 

It looks as though I accidentally pressed one of the feedback buttons whilst scrolling around the forum on my iPad,, apologies for any inconvenience

[NYCethan]

I’ve paid for drinks before, but genuinely because I was having a great time and going to make the money back anyway. I think it’s a nice gesture and way to show authentic appreciation for your client.

[mike carey]

Not an escort, but I have an example from a different setting. I recently sold a flat, and when the estate agent knocked it down to the successful bidder, he had a bottle of Moët each for the buyer and the vendor (me). In that case rather than prospectively making the money back, he had already made his money from me.

Edited December 4, 2019 by mike carey

[alkan]

Not quite what was being asked, but on the same lines. I had a regular, years ago, who used to cook for me when I visited him in his flat. I am a vegetarian but I didn't like to say no to the offered meat. (My original typing of this post had the word "kick" instead of "cook". What Freudian nightmare was that signalling?)

[rvwnsd]

I've had a couple of escorts pay for dinner. One asked "may I take you out to dinner?" and the other paid while I was in the restroom.

[+ peterhung85]

Yes, absolutely. I have done that many times for many of my clients with whom I have a great relationship otherwise. It can be "just because it is Tuesday" or because some of them had birthdays to celebrate. That's the minimum and I am happy to do that with the ones I like AND are frequent regulars of mine.

[Westsideguy]

I’m a client. I’ve had several buy me dinner or drinks. Especially on overnights. Always appreciated. But, never expected. And like @rvwnsd some paid when they or I went to restroom.

[Westsideguy]

I’m a client. I’ve had several buy me dinner or drinks. Especially on overnights. Always appreciated. But, never expected. And like @rvwnsd some paid when they or I went to restroom.

[sexymonk]

Yes, absolutely. I have done that many times for many of my clients with whom I have a great relationship otherwise. It can be "just because it is Tuesday" or because some of them had birthdays to celebrate. That's the minimum and I am happy to do that with the ones I like AND are frequent regulars of mine.

Yes, I will personally say that I had the good fortune where this fine man took me to dinner! Yes it happens when you develop the deep connection and have evolved to the phase of personal camaraderie.

[+ peterhung85]

Yes, I will personally say that I had the good fortune where this fine man took me to dinner! Yes it happens when you develop the deep connection and have evolved to the phase of personal camaraderie.

You are sweet! It was my pleasure. Maybe next time if I make enough, we can upgrade our experience from McDonald's to Burger King? (not promising anything in advance, will have to see my cash-flow first)

[LaffingBear]

As a client, I generally expect to pay. But on extended sessions, Ive had the rentguy pay for a meal, coffee or snack if we're out an about, etc. Ive been an overnight guest in their hotel room at no cost to me (although I suspect another client paid for multiple days,)

 

As "host" it can be one of those odd dynamics. I repeat, I expect to pay. But I like the casual feel of the other guy occassionally paying... it reinforces the message that they're genuinely enjoying time with me. And, on the flip-side, Ive been a little irritated by guys who blatantly hang back and expect me to pay for every single thing... e.g. shopping to cook dinner and grabbing extra items, or stopping for a convenience store soda, and stocking up on mints etc at my expense.

[Guest europeanman]

Maybe you should do what lawyers and other professionals do: Pay and charge them. If this makes them feel better, is tax deductible, or leads to add on revenue. ?

[MscleLovr]

on the flip-side, Ive been a little irritated by guys who blatantly hang back and expect me to pay for every single thing.

 

I guess @LaffingBear that you know the feeling of irritation is irrational in the larger scheme of things...yet I share that feeling.

 

I had a young friend staying with me (his idea, not mine) for some weeks. When we shopped for dinner, he would add items for his own consumption at a later date but never offered to pay for them. I commented on this once and his retort was forthright: Why should I pay? You’re rich!

 

I also had a regular provider who became a friend. He invariably chose the most expensive items on the menu when we had dinner together. I still recall us stopping in Paris for coffee one day, and he chose white jasmine flower tea; it was 10 years ago and his tea cost €34. I felt that his approach - ‘I must have it as it’s the most expensive‘ - was that of a hustler. And I noted that despite him being very attractive physically, he never had friends for long; he’d tell me about how he’d fallen out with each friend in turn.

[Guest europeanman]

I guess @LaffingBear that you know the feeling of irritation is irrational in the larger scheme of things...yet I share that feeling.

 

I had a young friend staying with me (his idea, not mine) for some weeks. When we shopped for dinner, he would add items for his own consumption at a later date but never offered to pay for them. I commented on this once and his retort was forthright: Why should I pay? You’re rich!

 

I also had a regular provider who became a friend. He invariably chose the most expensive items on the menu when we had dinner together. I still recall us stopping in Paris for coffee one day, and he chose white jasmine flower tea; it was 10 years ago and his tea cost €34. I felt that his approach - ‘I must have it as it’s the most expensive‘ - was that of a hustler. And I noted that despite him being very attractive physically, he never had friends for long; he’d tell me about how he’d fallen out with each friend in turn.

I apologise for saying this, but why are you so cheap? 30 or 100 or 1000 euros make no difference. What matters is the experience . Did you have an enjoyable dinner? Did you like having a young hottie living with you?