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I'm really new to all this massage thing, and thought that it might just be an occasional indulgence. But it's been a couple weeks since I last got a massage, and I think I'm having real withdrawal pains. Anybody else have this problem? Now just "regular" jo doesn't seem all that great. Maybe I should stop forever and break the addiction.

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It can be an expensive habit. I have 2-3 guys I see in regular rotation plus I’m always on the lookout for new ones that might interest me. I try to limit myself to once a month but sometimes that doesn’t last. I’m probably spending upwards of $2K per year, maybe more. It’s my one indulgence I suppose.

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I think that's my problem. I found a great one, and I'm crushing like a girl in middle school. LOL

 

Yeah I’ve been there, I feel you. You got to remember that it’s a business, the better they make you feel the more money you’ll spend. Never lose sight of that. Keep things in perspective and you won’t be disappointed.

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I think that's my problem. I found a great one, and I'm crushing like a girl in middle school. LOL

 

It can be an expensive habit. I have 2-3 guys I see in regular rotation plus I’m always on the lookout for new ones that might interest me. I try to limit myself to once a month but sometimes that doesn’t last. I’m probably spending upwards of $2K per year, maybe more. It’s my one indulgence I suppose.

 

We only live once, treat yourselves!

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What an interesting thread!

 

The focus of my sexuality has moved through pick-ups and relationships for the first years of my out life to the highly erotic club scene and "circuit" to strip clubs and now to m4m massage (porn has always had some role in my sex life). I haven't really moved on to escorts yet, but I hope to explore that experience someday. Each stage has been deeply rewarding but also complicated. I'm pretty Freudian about this: after the liquid perfection of life in the womb, humans are on a search for a return to that complete, safe, satisfying experience of merging with another person. It's not fully achievable, of course (my mother wouldn't have it! (plus I've grown a bit)), but all those different phases gave me intense moments of connection with another man and of blissful release from the "vale of sorrows" of ours.

 

All of these phases had their expenses--love DEFINITELY ain't free--so I have to use the same economic calculations about massage that I used in my other sexual pursuits. And even the emotional dimensions: it's easy to say that transactional sexual encounters like with strippers, escorts, or erotic masseurs aren't "real," but tricks and even boyfriends/husbands aren't simple emotionally either. We should all attend to our purses and our hearts.

 

The bottom line for me is that life is not easy; there is no solution to horniness or loneliness; rich emotional and sexual experiences are to be found in all kinds of places and all kinds of conditions. Right now for me "massage is life."

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I only get massages when I travel for work(which is about 4 or 5 times a year), never locally, never. The local masseurs look like "feet." Plus I like the variety abroad and masseur shopping can be fun. I try to find guys that I connect with chemistry and personality wise and luckily for me I tend find masseurs who enjoy my company,(and who like a little chocolate now and then:)) which is always a plus. It is an expensive habit but a while ago I tore my achillies tendon and all the walking around bothered my leg. I got a massage while away on a trip, and submitted it to my business office and they paid for it! I have pulled this off about 2 other times since! Terp

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It can be an expensive habit. I have 2-3 guys I see in regular rotation plus I’m always on the lookout for new ones that might interest me. I try to limit myself to once a month but sometimes that doesn’t last. I’m probably spending upwards of $2K per year, maybe more. It’s my one indulgence I suppose.

 

Same here

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I only get massages when I travel for work(which is about 4 or 5 times a year), never locally, never. The local masseurs look like "feet." Plus I like the variety abroad and masseur shopping can be fun. I try to find guys that I connect with chemistry and personality wise and luckily for me I tend find masseurs who enjoy my company,(and who like a little chocolate now and then:)) which is always a plus. It is an expensive habit but a while ago I tore my achillies tendon and all the walking around bothered my leg. I got a massage while away on a trip, and submitted it to my business office and they paid for it! I have pulled this off about 2 other times since! Terp

Yes, I also would never get a massage near my home. I'm in Asia, so massages are much cheaper, but can't get them except in certain countries. But then recently I got about 8 in a week. Maybe that accounts for my withdrawal pains now.....

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Come on, guys!

All these confessions with no names?! ?

 

As far as the frequency, I think many of us get more massages early on after “discovering” them, but then we calm down a little. I used to get a massage every 1-2 weeks but now I am down to one every 3 or 4 weeks.

 

I’ll splurge 2 a week when I travel to NYC but then in many cities the market is so bad that I’ll often get none, Boston being the latest example. And Montreal is an interesting outlier where I prefer to spend my money on dancers :-)

 

I think I’d get more massages if I lived in NY or Miami, maybe LA, the offer in these cities seems stronger. I like repeats with good masseurs who don’t mind doing my “trickier” areas (I run) and being naked with me, but there is not that many of those, especially not good looking ones that are 5’10” or taller (I am 6’4” and that can be tough for smaller guys). I’ll see a promising visitor who might turn into a repeat but these are mostly disappointments in my experience...

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