Taking offense from a recommendation

[FigureSkater]

I recently encountered an interesting exchange with a client. We didn’t end up meeting due to a weird miscommunication. I recommended to him that he could take a warm shower before I arrive or when I get there to elevate his body temperature and open pores so the massage oil could better adhere to his body. He took offense to it and threw a fit to how I could discredit his hygiene.

 

My question is was I out of place to recommend clients to shower beforehand or when I arrive? My intentions were nowhere in the realm of questioning a clients hygeine.

[LivingnLA]

I recently encountered an interesting exchange with a client. We didn’t end up meeting due to a weird miscommunication. I recommended to him that he could take a warm shower before I arrive or when I get there to elevate his body temperature and open pores so the massage oil could better adhere to his body. He took offense to it and threw a fit to how I could discredit his hygiene.

 

My question is was I out of place to recommend clients to shower beforehand or when I arrive? My intentions were nowhere in the realm of questioning a clients hygeine.

 

In my MT days, if I felt it would be beneficial for the client and the session outcome, I would suggest a client take a hot bath prior to a session to start the relaxation process in a client's soft tissues. I was very clear about the goal being the heat of the bath helping to kick start the relaxation process. I never once discussed or even came close to suggesting anything about hygiene.

 

I don't know what words were used, but any words even close to suggesting hygiene might've offended the client. Additionally, the client might be hypersensitive about their body for some reason. Who knows what life experiences they've had. Perhaps another provider once said something insulting or derogatory and it wounded the client's sense of self deeply.

[Nvr2Thick]

If it wasn't implied, you might have offered to join him.

 

Regardless, it simply sounds like you found a client who is a poor listener and who takes offense easily.

[dcguy20]

I wouldn't worry about it. I take no offense when massage therapists mention to come freshly showered. I even had one offer me a shower when I arrived at his place in Chicago

[+ poolboy48220]

I've hired one or two guys who require that I shower beforehand, no matter how recently I've showered. No big deal. Your almost-client sounds like a tool.

[FigureSkater]

I put “I recommend you shower before I arrive to the appointment, or wait until I arrive to shower with me. A nice warm shower helps open pores for the massage oil and bring up your body temperature for a more relaxing experience”

[+ FrankR]

I put “I recommend you shower before I arrive to the appointment, or wait until I arrive to shower with me. A nice warm shower helps open pores for the massage oil and bring up your body temperature for a more relaxing experience”

If there is anything offensive or insulting about this, I don’t see it... I agree with both @Nvr2Thick and @poolboy48220.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Your recommendation is not offensive. Even if it was an injunction, rather than a recommendation, it would still not be offensive.

 

Some clients are nuts. You are a good guy.

[+ lookingforfunny]

There is nothing wrong with making a recommendation, just like it is recommended against having alcoholic beverages or eating immediately before your massage.

[rvwnsd]

I agree with everyone else - nothing offensive about your recommendation. I've seen massage ads where the MT asks that clients who have colds or cold-like symptoms wait to get a massage until after they feel better. That doesn't mean the MT thinks the client is trying to get him sick.

[Nick99]

I put “I recommend you shower before I arrive to the appointment, or wait until I arrive to shower with me. A nice warm shower helps open pores for the massage oil and bring up your body temperature for a more relaxing experience”

I would be happy to shower with you, if I knew where you are!

[MaybeMaybeNot]

He probably has hygiene issues or has had them in the past. Why else would he be so sensitive? There is no reason why he should have taken offense at what you wrote. Perhaps you dodged a smelly bullet.

[FigureSkater]

I would be happy to shower with you, if I knew where you are!

 

Oklahoma!

[BabyBoomer]

I would be happy to shower with you, if I knew where you are!

 

Oklahoma!

 

OKC.

 

Here's a link to his ad.

 

https://rentmen.eu/FigureSkater

 

~Boomer~

[+ JEC]

Oklahoma!

.....and WORTH THE TRIP!

[Nick99]

OKC.

 

Here's a link to his ad.

 

https://rentmen.eu/FigureSkater

 

~Boomer~

Wow, thanks!

[+ ButchAtl]

I love a nice shower! Come visit Atlanta!

[+ Just966]

I agree, to me it would be a plus to start off with a shower together!

[marylander1940]

I recently encountered an interesting exchange with a client. We didn’t end up meeting due to a weird miscommunication. I recommended to him that he could take a warm shower before I arrive or when I get there to elevate his body temperature and open pores so the massage oil could better adhere to his body. He took offense to it and threw a fit to how I could discredit his hygiene.

 

My question is was I out of place to recommend clients to shower beforehand or when I arrive? My intentions were nowhere in the realm of questioning a clients hygeine.

 

if he got offended by that.... I hope he gets help.

 

Not completely on subject yet related... plenty of escorts saying the client had bad breath and because of that they didn't kiss him much and so many posters on here saying it was a "cheap shot" of an excuse for a bad review.

 

He probably has hygiene issues or has had them in the past. Why else would he be so sensitive? There is no reason why he should have taken offense at what you wrote. Perhaps you dodged a smelly bullet.

 

Actually he has baggage...

[+ HornyRetiree]

I recently encountered an interesting exchange with a client. We didn’t end up meeting due to a weird miscommunication. I recommended to him that he could take a warm shower before I arrive or when I get there to elevate his body temperature and open pores so the massage oil could better adhere to his body. He took offense to it and threw a fit to how I could discredit his hygiene.

 

My question is was I out of place to recommend clients to shower beforehand or when I arrive? My intentions were nowhere in the realm of questioning a clients hygeine.

 

WOW! His loss and I do believe you are lucky to not have had to meet w/ him!

 

Wish I were in OK j

[FigureSkater]

I love a nice shower! Come visit Atlanta!

I graduate this December. My travel schedule will be open afterwards! I’ll keep Atlanta in mind!

[LivingnLA]

I graduate this December. My travel schedule will be open afterwards! I’ll keep Atlanta in mind!

 

Congrats on your upcoming graduation!

[Epigonos]

Well Figureskater if you are going to start traveling after the first of the year do consider Southern California -- Orange County, Disneyland area. We could definitely share a shower plus all sorts of other fun things.

[510guy]

Well Figureskater if you are going to start traveling after the first of the year do consider Southern California -- Orange County, Disneyland area. We could definitely share a shower plus all sorts of other fun things.

 

Uh, excuse me! SF area first please. If you going to advertise as figure skater we need a pic with you wearing figure skates in the buff as if you were about to do a camel spin.

[FigureSkater]

Uh, excuse me! SF area first please. If you going to advertise as figure skater we need a pic with you wearing figure skates in the buff as if you were about to do a camel spin.

I will get barred from my ice rink! Although I have a figure skating photoshoot that will soon show up on my profile!