new to this... seeking advice

[MDinNY]

Hey guys. I’m a 34 year old male. Have a comfortable and seemingly normal life. I had a fiancé but ended that about 6 months ago. I’ve dated since then but nothing serious.

 

Here is why I’m posting... I’ve had a desire to be with a man for some time. I had a married buddy that I met through CL years ago. We would meet up, JO - some touching but that’s it.

 

I’ve never had a dick in my mouth or ass. I want to try that. I travel a lot for work so want to this during a work trip.

 

I need advice - this is something I want to try soon. Should I try to meet someone through a hookup app or hire an escort? Or maybe start with an erotic massage?

 

I’ve chatted with a few guys on Grindr. I’m 34 6’3” 200 lbs. Played baseball in college and have an athletic/muscular build. The reason I mention that is because I’m getting a lot of responses from guys that want me to top them. I suppose I’ll want to do that. But what I really want is a guy that teaches me how to suck, bottom and can make me feel good. A dominant albeit respectful and patient guy. A guy that won’t get upset if I don’t gothrough with it all the first time we meet.

 

I frequent Seattle, Minneapolis, Chicago,Philadelphia, Dallas, and Los Angeles for work. Hope this hasn’t bored you yet. I don’t know how to best move forward with this. Suggestions would be greatly welcomed. And if anyone knows of the right person? Any recommendations would be appreciated.

 

I posted in another section but not sure if it would be more appropriate here.

[+ Avalon]

I'd suggest an escort; a professional. He's had experience with newbies before. There you can set your limits. People here can give you recommendations on escorts who are good with beginners.

[+ Just Sayin]

in the cities you mentioned, you will find escorts who are also massage therapists; I think an erotic massage might be a great way to experience sensuality with another man; and be sure to explain to the escort what is in your comfort zone

[Mo Mason]

Escorts in those cities you listed... wow, you'll have a great selection to choose from. You're gonna have a great time!

[MDinNY]

Escorts in those cities you listed... wow, you'll have a great selection to choose from. You're gonna have a great time!

Any suggestions? I will do my research I guess. Just want to get input. Thank you all for thoughtful and quick responses.

[Mo Mason]

Do you have a type? Appearance/style/build/height.. et cetera?

 

Or do you not care? It seems to me that a lot of straight/bi-curious first timers don't even care if the guy they're experimenting with is attractive or not (lucky me).

[MDinNY]

Do you have a type? Appearance/style/build/height.. et cetera?

 

Or do you not care? It seems to me that a lot of straight/bi-curious first timers don't even care if the guy they're experimenting with is attractive or not (lucky me).

Tall muscular... don’t care on dick size. Smaller may be better. I prefer 40 and above. Don’t want kids:).

[+ WhamIAm]

Chicago? Alx Ward

 

https://rentmen.eu/AlxWard

 

Tall, gorgeous, sweet, in-charge and would probably be excellent with a rookie! (I think he is 100% top, so not-so-great a choice if you want to flip, but sounds like what you're mostly interested in would be right in his wheelhouse). If you contact him (or any escort) just explain what you're looking for.

 

Go have fun!

 

PS -- I wouldn't go to a hook-up app first time around the block. IMHO, chances of finding someone who would actually be attuned to your needs as a first-timer are slim.

Edited June 23, 2018 by WhamIAm

[+ Pensant]

I think you’re going to enjoy this hobby starting at your age. You’ve also got the height and stats that I love.

[+ azdr0710]

as suggested, I'd go with a professional provider who has solid reviews at daddysreviews dot com.......when you zero in on a few dudes, mention them in this thread (with links) and see if we have any comments

 

be honest, but I'd wait until the second text/email to get specific (some providers like a modicum of discretion!).....in the first email or text, just say hi, very briefly describe yourself, mention you're new at this and are looking for a "teacher" of sorts (though some providers may not want to bother with all that seems to entail)......be polite, professional, to-the-point and brief, and don't bombard them with too many contacts......

 

the tone of their communication will help a lot.....

[Mo Mason]

I've never met him personally, but everyone does love Alex Ward in Chicago. And I wouldn't be off-put by a large endowment, even for your first time. These professionals know what they're doing, they'll take it slow for you, and before you know it you'll be begging for a harder pounding.

[+ WhamIAm]

And I wouldn't be off-put by a large endowment, even for your first time. These professionals know what they're doing, they'll take it slow for you, and before you know it you'll be begging for a harder pounding.

 

This. And, if that is a concern, you might want to get yourself one of these:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003JI4Q50/ref=od_aui_detailpages00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

 

Explore what works for you. And, with these, you can either DIY it or bring them to your meet as one way your partner can help you warm up.

[Guest]

Chicago? Alx Ward

 

https://rentmen.eu/AlxWard

That escort doesn’t seem to have a beginner’s cock. You may want to start by jacking off with a thin dildo or anal stimulator. I seem to be one of the few gay men who prefers small cocks himself. It’s difficult to find with escorts. I’m more of a top, and like to suck, but I just gag with big cocks. I love sucking a cock that fits easily in my mouth. FTM’s with vaginas are also great, but almost all trans men seem to have more tattoos than I like. Try JO’ing while stimulating your prostate with something like this:

 

http://letstalksex.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/best-anal-beads-silicone-flexi-power-rod-anal-vibrator.jpg

[MDinNY]

Thanks guys. I’m not against a big dick. Just don’t know how fun it will be for my partner if I can’t handle it. I’ll look into guys and ask for your opinion. My next trip is in July - dallas.

[MDinNY]

Dallas Steele

Benjamin Nicholas

Chad White

Inzane

 

This is my first time so if it doesn’t work out on the Dallas trip, I’m in LA for the next one. Thoughts on the aforementioned?

 

Appreciate the responses. I know this is not the most exciting thread.

Edited June 24, 2018 by MDinNY

[+ Funguy]

You might want to try somebody who offers a combination of erotic massage and escort experience in same visit. Start with the massage and work up to the bedroom.

In LA - try Rod Hagen

[MDinNY]

You might want to try somebody who offers a combination of erotic massage and escort experience in same visit. Start with the massage and work up to the bedroom.

In LA - try Rod Hagen

Thanks

[BabyBoomer]

Dallas Steele

Ben Nichols

Chad White

Inzane

 

This is my first time so if it doesn’t work out on the Dallas trip, I’m in LA for the next one. Thoughts on the aforementioned?

 

Appreciate the responses. I know this is not the most exciting thread.

 

https://rentmen.eu/DallasSteele

 

https://rentmen.eu/ChadWhite

 

https://rentmen.eu/Inzane

 

I assume you meant @Benjamin_Nicholas and not Ben Nichols.

 

~Boomer~

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I know this is not the most exciting thread.

Reading about a gay virgin’s first time getting his cherry popped is a lot more exciting than you think.

[JayJonathan]

I agree with all the comments here. For me, I was in your position about two years ago. I started with a few erotic massages and then worked my way up to full escort experience.

 

If you’re nervous, that’s not a bad way to get started, but since you’ve already had some experience with your J/O buddy, you may not need that interim step like I did.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Dallas Steele

Benjamin Nicholas

Chad White

Inzane

 

This is my first time so if it doesn’t work out on the Dallas trip, I’m in LA for the next one. Thoughts on the aforementioned?

 

Appreciate the responses. I know this is not the most exciting thread.

 

Benjamin was one of my first hires and he was perfect for me and filling the scenario you describe. (I had two previous massage sessions that didn't go far enough.) He is often booked a month or two in advance, so if he interests you, I would recommend contact soon.

[+ Charlie]

Given your lack of experience, I would bypass the commercial sites like "rentmen" as starters, and go to "daddysreviews" site, look for the city you expect to be in, and read reviews of the escorts that clients have actually experienced. Many reviewers also are members of this site, and you can ask about specific escorts/masseurs in the Deli forum, or start private conversations with members here who know about the specific escorts and the best way to approach them.

[gallahadesquire]

Inzane is a performer on chaosmen.com, where he's versatile and quite the hunk. Don't know how he'd be with a newbie.

https://rentmen.eu/Inzane

Edited July 1, 2018 by gallahadesquire

[MDinNY]

I wanted to share where I’m at... I got a lot of private messages. Thanks for all the advice. I think I’m starting with a massage first - ideally sensual. I think it will help ease into more.

 

These are the guys I’m looking at in Dallas...

 

Bill

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/30935/

 

Robert

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/15806/

 

Eric

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/223/

 

Troy

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/5923/

 

Adam

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/8275/

 

 

I’m physically attracted to all these guys. I’ll do my own research but if anyone has suggestions would be appreciative of any advice.

[+ friendofsheila]

Since you have the money to do this, it sure sounds like a fun hobby to take up. Nice!