Studsearcher

No, there are not.

Take the conversation off-site before discussing anything physical or your account will get banned. Think about your ideal arrangement and be upfront and honest. It’s easy to waste a LOT of time on that site if you aren’t direct about expectations. But again, take the conversation off-site. I also recommend immediately blocking anyone who messages you that you aren’t interested in, so they can’t make a frivolous complaint about you.

4 when traveling, 7 when at home. Normally cash, I’ve paid via app once. Usually google voice, and I prefer to travel when home but I’ve hosted a couple of times. I will cover transportation when it makes sense, but I’ve used my own Uber account just once. I found I’m far more selective/paranoid in who I’ll have to my house in a regular neighborhood vs when I lived in a gated community.

First meets have always been a crap shoot for me. One time the guy kept saying he wanted a good steak dinner so I made reservations at a nice restaurant and he showed up in a tshirt and ripped jeans. Another guy gave himself a preemptive ‘out’ via text before we met, which I am completely fine with. Unfortunately for him I was the one not interested and I insisted he not change his other plans after we had our drinks. My approach has been evolving, and I rarely compensate for the initial meeting, I only pay for the dinner/drinks. Coffee shops tend to be too close of quarters for my taste so I’ll go for a bar that won’t be busy or a restaurant that I know offers some privacy, and I stay away from the gayborhood. If I’m traveling I make them suggest a place. I’ve hooked up on the first meeting just once. We never discussed compensation and the next morning he gave me a list of all of his bills so I could choose which ones to pay! If we’re a match I’ll work out the details later via text. If we’re not a match I lie and tell them I realized that paying isn’t my thing. That hasn’t seemed to offend anyone as it saves them a rejection that might be based on appearance, and we’ve always parted on good terms. Another thing I have to share is that my last regular was very attractive and fun to hang out with but he was such a dud in the bedroom that I finally had to let him go. I don’t think it was as simple as him not being attracted to me either because he told me about a guy he was casually dating who would get mad at him when they were fooling around. It’s just so odd to think that there are some really hot guys who are duds in the bedroom!

Unsure which market you are in but that seems like a premium rate for which you should expect a premium experience. An experienced provider should be able to avoid such a situation, or at least handle it better than that.

I think that’s the kind of review we could use more of. I’ve had a few similar experiences - their appearance and personality are as expected, but they can’t perform as expected. I think that doesn’t matter to some clients, especially those hiring more for the company, but to others it does. It’s not a one star out of five experience, but maybe a 3 or 4 star. I’ll need to start leaving reviews like that myself when I get back to hiring.

I sometimes wonder if the high end market is more like the rich, obnoxious gays you see on reality shows like Below Deck or the rich closet case businessman with a family. Maybe it’s both, but I know it’s not me. I’ve found that a higher price does not equal a better experience, and as prices have risen and experiences have lessened I’m spending far less. In 2018 I spent $26,000 on the hobby. In 2019 $8,000 and in 2020 a whopping $400 (though COVID was definitely a factor). I honestly wouldn’t have a problem paying up to 500/hr if I knew it would be worth it. Unfortunately I’ve paid top end rates for well reviewed guys and not been impressed. Now I just assume my standards are out of line with the hobby and it’s made me rather jaded toward hiring. If I do start hiring again I’m just glad I’m not in a market where I’m competing with guys who spend thousands of dollars for companionship without physical interaction.

Life is what you make of it. My mid 30’s were some of the best years of my life. I finally learned to let down my guard and have fun. I worked with a trainer regularly and got in good shape, which helped me feel more confident. I moved to a new city and made several quality friends who I remain close with today. I also found my true calling career wise. The best part of being in your mid 30’s is that many younger guys see you as experienced but not old, and older people no longer view you as a kid.

I’m a Midwestern transplant to the Nashville area and I love it here. I think the gay scene is pretty good for a city of this size. I’ve made many friends, gay and straight, and most of them are also from elsewhere. I think having so many transplants makes people friendlier otherwise no one would have any friends! I’m not very familiar with Putnam county but it is definitely a rural area and does have a small college town. I’m sure you will meet new people if you put yourself out there, but you will have the best luck if you’re willing to drive to Nashville.

I usually keep some extra cash in a separate pocket from the fee (easily accessible) and tip if we go over on time or he has a lower than market rate and provides a memorable experience. Other than that, or if he has a high rate for the market, I don’t tip.

About 13-14 years ago I had a one-time hire whom I approached on Craigslist personals and a few months later he appeared in some Sean Cody videos. Another, who was a regular in Nashville for several months, went on to become a fairly well known musician. I’ve met a couple others who appeared in music videos before, during, and after our times together.

To me it’s as pointless as paying for an in person meet without any physical interaction. I guess enough guys do it or the industry wouldn’t exist.

Agreed. I did the VIP area once and that was enough to know it’s not for me. A lot of guys love it back there but I prefer my trysts to be in private rather than a three walled ‘room’. I try to get a table near the stage and that’s where I stay for the night. Get drunk with friends, tip the good performers and have a provider at my hotel the next day. SR has a lot of hot dancers so they won’t all be in the back at the same time. Enjoy what’s available at the moment.

I had it in mid-March with the initial breakout. I likely caught it at a concert on March 10, days before our local lockdown began. For me it was the equivalent of moderate allergies, less than a bad cold and no fever. I was surprised I was able to get tested (the test was in late April after I no longer had any symptoms at all). For what it’s worth I’m in my late 40’s, 30lbs overweight, and type O-. However, two colleagues of mine also had it at the same time. A fit looking 50yo man who’s life it took, and a fit 32yo runner who said it was the sickest he’s been in his life, with two weeks of severe fatigue and body aches. More recently, family members of a couple friends have had it. Fortunately, as of this posting, and knock on wood, no one has been hospitalized.

Good advice. I’m curious if you use your regular personal account or a different discreet/anonymous account when approaching them?