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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from samhexum in For Those Who Like Bears ;-)))   
    http://dl.dropbox.com/s/jzvkahc1iwvg973/IMG_4243.JPG?dl=0
     
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from stormo in Dean Coxx???   
    That was the same experience I had when contacting him maybe 10 to 12 years ago. I was probably interested in a weekend. And I couldn't get a good feeling of how 'friendly' he'd be inside the bedroom. I think he gave me the impression that he was a total top without actually saying it. And as much as I was attracted to his physique, I don't (well didn't ) knowingly hire tops.
     
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from Danny-Darko in Gay movie you liked   
    I could never tell if Hart Bochner was gay/bi or just using his roommate.
     
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from wab678 in Toupée, or not toupée?   
    You might have felt differently if you had been bald at 28 as I was.
     
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth reacted to Marc in Calif in Instant Pot Recipes Anyone?   
    Best name ever! I've now bookmarked it along with my other InstaPot cooking sites. Thank you! 👐
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from Marc in Calif in Instant Pot Recipes Anyone?   
    I bought an Instant Pot. Here are some of the things I've made---spaghetti which I really like (Ok it uses jarred sauce and isn't a good as my Mom's homemade, but it's ready in about 30 minutes or less. I brown a pound of ground beef with and add premade meatballs), Hungarian goulash which wasn't bad, pot roast (was ok-but I feel the same way about slow cooker pot roast too- the meat always tastes boiled to me), and a chicken pot roast equivalent which wasn't bad. 
     
    The most surprising thing I've made in it is a Pineapple Upside Down Cake which was  good. It doesn't get caramelized like it would in the oven or an iron pan. But it really was delicious!! My Mom was skeptical, but she became a convert after tasting. 

    I found these recipes on a site called Pressure Luck Cooking. The founder of the site, Jeffrey Eisner, happens to be a fellow Friend of Dorothy. He has an interesting story. He worked in advertising. He had an Instant Pot (from here forward to be known as an IP if I use the term again) but hadn't really used it. He became interested, started developing recipes, and published his first cookbook right as Covid hit. Since then he's published 3 more. His cookbooks have been a hit on Amazon, and he's made the rounds of various TV shows. 
     
    Here's his website. There's also  YouTube Video. Look up Pressure Luck Pineapple Upside Down Cake. 
     
    Home
    PRESSURELUCKCOOKING.COM Bringing you the tastiest, easiest and best recipes around - no experience required!
    He uses Ekovana Stackable Steamer Pans for this recipe. They can be found on Amazon  
     
     
     And here's the recipe. I might add if you make it, that I'd use the longer cooking time. I don't know if that was the reason. But the first time I made it, I used the shorter time, and the cake was still uncooked at the end. Maybe there was too much batter (the recipe makes 2 cakes). 
     
    Instant Pot Pineapple Upside Down Cake
    PRESSURELUCKCOOKING.COM I'd tell you to turn your world upside-down with this one, but one bite and you're gonna knock yourself on the... So without further ado...
     
      YIELD: 6
    Instant Pot Pineapple Upside Down Cake
    I'd tell you to turn your world upside-down with this one, but one bite and you're gonna knock yourself on the floor. A huge (and simple) crowd-pleaser.
    PREP TIME COOK TIME
    5 minutes 1 hour 25 minutes
    TOTAL TIME
    1 hour 30 minutes
    Ingredients
    1 box of Pineapple Cake mix (I used Duncan Hines Pineapple Supreme)

    3 extra large eggs (since 3 is an odd number, if halving the recipe use 2 small eggs)

    20 oz can of Pineapple Rings in their juices (NOT in heavy syrup – there is a difference and the can will specify), with the rings separated from the juice. There will be 10 rings in the can

    1/2 cup of canola oil (vegetable oil is fine too but I suggest canola for this)
    1/4 cup of water

    3.4 oz packet of Vanilla Jell-O Instant Pudding mix (make sure it’s “Instant”)
    1 stick (1/2 cup) of salted butter

    1 cup of dark brown sugar, packed
    Maraschino cherries, stem removed

    Instructions
    1. In a Kitchen Aid stand mixer or in a mixing bowl using a hand mixer, add the cake mix, pudding mix, eggs, the juice (and only the juice) from the can of pineapple slices, canola oil and water. Blend well (on speed level 4 if using a Kitchen Aid stand mixer) until all of the lumps are out and it’s nice and smooth
    2. Taking pans (I am using my Ekovana pans because they are PERFECT for this) that are about 7-7.5′′ in diameter and about 2.5′′ high, lightly spray some non-stick cooking spray along the bottom and sides. 
    3. Place the butter in a bowl and melt in the microwave for 60 seconds. Then add the brown sugar and mix together well. This amount is meant for two pans, so equally distribute the butter brown sugar mixture into each pan so that it coats the bottom of each
    4. Lay in the pineapple rings and put a cherry in the hole of each filling in any other spaces with more cherries
    5. Pour HALF of the batter into each pan. Assuming you’re using a 2.5′′ height pan, it should not go much higher than half height of the pan (it’s okay if it goes a LITTLE over)
    6. Cover the pan(s) with tin foil (or, if using the Ekovana pans, secure the lid and fasten one of them in the caddy it comes with)
    7. In the Instant Pot, add the trivet and a cup of water. Rest the foil/lid covered pans on top of it. If using a pan other than the Ekovana, make a sling out of aluminum foil to easily get the pan out of the Instant Pot when done cooking. If you don’t feel like making a sling, just be careful when you lower the pot and be very careful when removing it after cooking
    8. Secure the lid and cook in one of two ways: Either on “Manual” or “Pressure Cook” for 50 minutes on High Pressure with a 30 minute natural release -OR- for 40 minutes on High Pressure with a FULL natural (no quick) release (about 40 minutes). Either way will work perfectly fine
    9. When done, carefully remove the pan from the Instant Pot and let cool for about 5 minutes. Place a plate larger than the pan’s diameter over the top, hold together securely and quickly flip it upside down. The cake will simply slide RIGHT out of the pan and transfer beautifully to the plate.
    10. Serve right away or a few hours away – whenever you want! After your first slice (because, let’s face it, you’re not going to be able to wait) if you keep it at room temperature for a while the cake will begin to soak in that INSANE brown butter sauce and the experience will be taken to the next level!
    11. ENJOY! ?
    Jeffrey's

    The recipe has enough batter for two cakes. Only make one cake at a time. 
    If you have two Instant Pots, you can make them simultaneously. If not, you can make one after the other OR just cut the recipe in half and save the rest of the cake mix for another day!
            
     
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from Marc in Calif in U=U   
    I guess this goes along with a recent topic I had in the Deli. 
     
    Let me say first that I totally believe that U = U. The problem that always occurs to me-and I'm not just talking about escorts here, but also casual non-paid encounters or even people you know on a more regular basis - is that even if someone is on their medicine -how do you know they are taking it regularly-didn't miss any doses-or that maybe they have for whatever reason-a short period of out of suppression viremia. 
     
    I guess the smartest answer is -"You never really know. ". And you should always take precautions. 
     
     
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in U=U   
    I guess this goes along with a recent topic I had in the Deli. 
     
    Let me say first that I totally believe that U = U. The problem that always occurs to me-and I'm not just talking about escorts here, but also casual non-paid encounters or even people you know on a more regular basis - is that even if someone is on their medicine -how do you know they are taking it regularly-didn't miss any doses-or that maybe they have for whatever reason-a short period of out of suppression viremia. 
     
    I guess the smartest answer is -"You never really know. ". And you should always take precautions. 
     
     
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    + Gar1eth reacted to + Lucky in U=U   
    @Gar1eth It is nice to see you posting here again.
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from + nycman in Any Other Muscle Addicts   
    As the young lady stated, in Best Little Whorehouse in Texas, "No three or more in a bed. This ain't the circus!!"
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    + Gar1eth reacted to BuffaloKyle in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    There was nothing you could have done differently. He had a lot going on health wise being HIV+ and may or may not have been taking meds for it like you said. Then to be doing meth on top of it doesn't help at all. So once he got diagnosed with cancer his prognosis probably wasn't good. Don't beat yourself up over anything. 
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    + Gar1eth reacted to ICTJOCK in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    Interesting background.   I certainly wasn't expecting that sort of ending.     My thought is,  use the experience to help guide your future.   There isn't anything you can do for Harry,........
    Except learn from what happened.   Don't ever forget how this experience has changed you and use it to perhaps help others.... and you.      
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    + Gar1eth reacted to soloyo215 in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    Without getting into details, I had a similar situation. What I did was something symbolic to make amends to him and myself. I volunteered some of my work to something that I knew he cared for. I felt good about it after.
    Maybe doing the next best thing can give you some kind of peace, closure, absolution, or whatever you might feel you need.
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Any Other Muscle Addicts   
    Apparently someone else (could it be Vin_Marco) likes  that scene too!!    
    ..."They was plumb unattractive, 
    but by gum, they was active,
    so I beg you kindly 'cause,
    put 'em back the way they wuz!"...
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Any Other Muscle Addicts   
    As a youngster of 5 or so, this was my favorite scene from the movie "Li'l Abner." Actually it's probably still my favorite scene   
     
    Some people's heroes may have always been cowboys.  Mine have always been men ( or Cowboys) with Greek G-d physiques. 
     


     
     
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from marylander1940 in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    
      Ok I apologize in advance as this may be rather long. 
     
    Reddit has a feature where people present an incident in their life that seems to be controversial for the people involved, and people respond back to how they view the incident. The person presenting it is either unsure of whether they acted correctly or is looking for validation when acquaintances are negative over whatever the presenter did. 
    Here's my story:
    I met a guy about a year after I moved back to Texas thru one of the hook-up apps. I was maybe mildly attracted to him but nothing major. We had probably texted on and off  for a year before I decided to meet. One of the reasons I probably delayed was because he was HIV positive. Yes I know U=U. But it still gave me pause. I mean I didn't know the guy. How did I know if he took his medication regularly. And I wasn't on PrEP at the time. There were also logistic problems. I was staying with family and couldn't host. 
     
    But we kept talking -and I was horny -and we finally met at his apartment. He told me his 1st name at some point (I never got his last name). I was never sure whether it was really his name or an alias. I had -sometimes still do-gave him my middle name. It's actually helpful-if I've met someone on the apps-I usually used to give my middle name. Then when we met in person, and I knew the guy wasn't crazy, I'd tell him my real name. That way if someone texted me by my middle name -I knew I probably hadn't met him in person. And if he turned out to be crazy, I hadn't given my real name  
    Let's call the guy Harry. Harry and I did exchange phone numbers. And we continued to meet intermittently over probably 3 to 4 years. This was truly a fbud relationship. We only met at his apartment. I knew his profession but not exactly where he worked. He knew where I worked. He def was not someone I was majorly attracted to. But he was often the only guy available. I know I wasn't the only one he would see because he was into videoing encounters. (He had lots and lots of self-made videos).  Plus he liked multiples, and that's not my usual cup of tea. He also liked to smoke meth. That was the main time he wanted to see me. I don't do drugs. And to tell the truth if I had had more opportunity for other fbuds, I probably wouldn't have continued to see him. But I'm a chubby bald bear. Not that many guys are interested in me. And from time to time, I needed to be with someone. 
    But this was a casual relationship. We were definitely only fbuds. We never went out anywhere together, never had a meal, never watched TV (except a few bits of his porn videos or the videos he had recorded). Often I would text, and he wouldn't respond at all for weeks. Sometimes he'd text me, and I'd tell him I couldn't meet. Sometimes he'd disappear off the apps-often when he wasn't smoking meth as much. I don't think we met very often during Covid. But it's difficult to remember exactly. 
    All the dates are difficult to remember at this point- I think it might have been a year since I last saw him. But I think it was last October he texted me that he had been diagnosed with cancer. I told him how sorry I was. But it was a short text conversation. I didn't hear from him after that. 
    Starting in January because of financial problems, I've had to move in with relatives. It's not just  that I can't host, but often meetings from the apps occur late at night. Apparently not only do the girls get prettier at closing time-but chubby bears often become more attractive too. However because of my living situation, I can't take off in the middle of the night. So I haven't been meeting a lot of people. 
    I've thought about Harry from time to time. But didn't text. After I moved in with my relatives, I reduced my time on the apps for months since I couldn't often meet. When I got back on a few months ago, I didn't see him on either Growlr or Scruff which were the apps I used to see him on. 
    Last night for some reason I was thinking about Harry, and I put his phone number in a search website-this one in case anyone is interested https://www.fastpeoplesearch.com/ I'm not sure why I had never looked him up before.
    The website managed to pull up his name. Turns out he did give me his real first name. I googled him-expecting to maybe find his LinkedIn profile or Facebook page. Instead I found his obituary. He had died last March. 
    The news was quite a shock. So now I'm feeling pretty awful. I feel like I should have checked in on him at some point. While we were only non-exclusive fbuds, it seems to me that if I had been a more decent person, I would have gotten back in touch with him. I will say that it was in the back of my mind that he'd contact me again to let me know how he was doing. But when he didn't, I should have checked in on him. 
    I can't help thinking that I'm an esshole for not checking in to see how Harry was doing. I only hope I take this lesson to heart and work on being a more caring person.
    I just thought of a quote from "A Christmas Carol."  Scrooge tells Marley he was always a good businessman. Marley replies that "Mankind should have been his business."  That's how I'm feeling now.  
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth reacted to rvwnsd in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    You are not the a-hole, @Gar1eth. In fact, there is no a-hole. You are a caring person. If you weren't, you would not be giving this matter so much thought. 
    Be kind to yourself. It is hard to do when we a loss, but it's important.
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    + Gar1eth reacted to + Charlie in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    If I had $1K for every person with whom I had some sort of friendly relationship, whose death I only learned of later from an obituary, I would have a lot more money in the bank. For example, I had two roommates in college, each one for a year and a half; we were good friends at the time, but I didn't keep in touch for long after graduation, and I learned of the death of each one only after I became curious about re-uniting with them, only to discover that they were deceased. In fact, of the eight people I have lived with since leaving my parents' home, the only one still living is my spouse, and only one of the other seven was someone whose death I anticipated in advance, and visited a few days before the end. If I had known, of course I would have contacted the others before they died, if only to let them know that I had cared about them and would mourn their passing. I felt particularly upset about the old friend who committed suicide, wondering if there were something I could have done to prevent that, although that was probably unlikely. But the others all died of natural causes, and at the end I doubt that they thought sadly, "I wonder why I didn't hear from Charlie?"
    It sounds like you had a much more casual relationship with Harry than I had with friends I lived with, sometimes for several years. (My roommate Cal was actually the person who gave me the nickname "Charlie"!) There is no reason for you to feel guilty for not reaching out to Harry; you weren't responsible for his life, or for his death. What you are feeling is nostalgia for the loss of a relationship that might have become more important--or might not. Of course, I feel sorry about not making the effort to re-connect with Cal and the others sooner, but I don't blame myself for not having made what might have seemed to them like a quixotic gesture at the time. For all you know, you might have made Harry feel worse by reminding him that he wouldn't be anyone's fbud any longer.
    As I remember from long ago, G-man, you are a sensitive soul. Give yourself a break.
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from Marc in Calif in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    
      Ok I apologize in advance as this may be rather long. 
     
    Reddit has a feature where people present an incident in their life that seems to be controversial for the people involved, and people respond back to how they view the incident. The person presenting it is either unsure of whether they acted correctly or is looking for validation when acquaintances are negative over whatever the presenter did. 
    Here's my story:
    I met a guy about a year after I moved back to Texas thru one of the hook-up apps. I was maybe mildly attracted to him but nothing major. We had probably texted on and off  for a year before I decided to meet. One of the reasons I probably delayed was because he was HIV positive. Yes I know U=U. But it still gave me pause. I mean I didn't know the guy. How did I know if he took his medication regularly. And I wasn't on PrEP at the time. There were also logistic problems. I was staying with family and couldn't host. 
     
    But we kept talking -and I was horny -and we finally met at his apartment. He told me his 1st name at some point (I never got his last name). I was never sure whether it was really his name or an alias. I had -sometimes still do-gave him my middle name. It's actually helpful-if I've met someone on the apps-I usually used to give my middle name. Then when we met in person, and I knew the guy wasn't crazy, I'd tell him my real name. That way if someone texted me by my middle name -I knew I probably hadn't met him in person. And if he turned out to be crazy, I hadn't given my real name  
    Let's call the guy Harry. Harry and I did exchange phone numbers. And we continued to meet intermittently over probably 3 to 4 years. This was truly a fbud relationship. We only met at his apartment. I knew his profession but not exactly where he worked. He knew where I worked. He def was not someone I was majorly attracted to. But he was often the only guy available. I know I wasn't the only one he would see because he was into videoing encounters. (He had lots and lots of self-made videos).  Plus he liked multiples, and that's not my usual cup of tea. He also liked to smoke meth. That was the main time he wanted to see me. I don't do drugs. And to tell the truth if I had had more opportunity for other fbuds, I probably wouldn't have continued to see him. But I'm a chubby bald bear. Not that many guys are interested in me. And from time to time, I needed to be with someone. 
    But this was a casual relationship. We were definitely only fbuds. We never went out anywhere together, never had a meal, never watched TV (except a few bits of his porn videos or the videos he had recorded). Often I would text, and he wouldn't respond at all for weeks. Sometimes he'd text me, and I'd tell him I couldn't meet. Sometimes he'd disappear off the apps-often when he wasn't smoking meth as much. I don't think we met very often during Covid. But it's difficult to remember exactly. 
    All the dates are difficult to remember at this point- I think it might have been a year since I last saw him. But I think it was last October he texted me that he had been diagnosed with cancer. I told him how sorry I was. But it was a short text conversation. I didn't hear from him after that. 
    Starting in January because of financial problems, I've had to move in with relatives. It's not just  that I can't host, but often meetings from the apps occur late at night. Apparently not only do the girls get prettier at closing time-but chubby bears often become more attractive too. However because of my living situation, I can't take off in the middle of the night. So I haven't been meeting a lot of people. 
    I've thought about Harry from time to time. But didn't text. After I moved in with my relatives, I reduced my time on the apps for months since I couldn't often meet. When I got back on a few months ago, I didn't see him on either Growlr or Scruff which were the apps I used to see him on. 
    Last night for some reason I was thinking about Harry, and I put his phone number in a search website-this one in case anyone is interested https://www.fastpeoplesearch.com/ I'm not sure why I had never looked him up before.
    The website managed to pull up his name. Turns out he did give me his real first name. I googled him-expecting to maybe find his LinkedIn profile or Facebook page. Instead I found his obituary. He had died last March. 
    The news was quite a shock. So now I'm feeling pretty awful. I feel like I should have checked in on him at some point. While we were only non-exclusive fbuds, it seems to me that if I had been a more decent person, I would have gotten back in touch with him. I will say that it was in the back of my mind that he'd contact me again to let me know how he was doing. But when he didn't, I should have checked in on him. 
    I can't help thinking that I'm an esshole for not checking in to see how Harry was doing. I only hope I take this lesson to heart and work on being a more caring person.
    I just thought of a quote from "A Christmas Carol."  Scrooge tells Marley he was always a good businessman. Marley replies that "Mankind should have been his business."  That's how I'm feeling now.  
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from Bokomaru in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    Sometimes yes-sometimes no. I was just so shocked when I found the obituary. I mean obviously I've encountered death at my age. But he was younger than I am. I just need to do better.
     
    I mean last night I was tearing up when a character died on Poldark. That happens a lot. TV and movie deaths affect me -I'm a sap but I guess it is a tribute to the production.  But I need to make sure I carry over those kind of feelings to real people. This man and I had a relationship. It was a limited one. But it was a relationship nonetheless. I should have inquired-not been so caught up in my own mishegoss. 
     
    But thank you for the kind words @MikeBiDude
     
    I actually have another situation to tell. It's from several years ago. I almost wrote about it then. But I was really emotional about it. I could never quite put it completely into words.  Now the emotion is not as intense-and my memory of it not as acute (or accurate). I may post about it in a few months. It's more of tribute piece-along with some regrets-of a man I wasn't able to really publicly mourn. Well I could mourn him-just it was by myself. Because of the situation I wasn't able to share how much over the years he had meant to me (platonically only) with his family. 
     
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from MikeBiDude in I Unfortunately Am The Esshole   
    
      Ok I apologize in advance as this may be rather long. 
     
    Reddit has a feature where people present an incident in their life that seems to be controversial for the people involved, and people respond back to how they view the incident. The person presenting it is either unsure of whether they acted correctly or is looking for validation when acquaintances are negative over whatever the presenter did. 
    Here's my story:
    I met a guy about a year after I moved back to Texas thru one of the hook-up apps. I was maybe mildly attracted to him but nothing major. We had probably texted on and off  for a year before I decided to meet. One of the reasons I probably delayed was because he was HIV positive. Yes I know U=U. But it still gave me pause. I mean I didn't know the guy. How did I know if he took his medication regularly. And I wasn't on PrEP at the time. There were also logistic problems. I was staying with family and couldn't host. 
     
    But we kept talking -and I was horny -and we finally met at his apartment. He told me his 1st name at some point (I never got his last name). I was never sure whether it was really his name or an alias. I had -sometimes still do-gave him my middle name. It's actually helpful-if I've met someone on the apps-I usually used to give my middle name. Then when we met in person, and I knew the guy wasn't crazy, I'd tell him my real name. That way if someone texted me by my middle name -I knew I probably hadn't met him in person. And if he turned out to be crazy, I hadn't given my real name  
    Let's call the guy Harry. Harry and I did exchange phone numbers. And we continued to meet intermittently over probably 3 to 4 years. This was truly a fbud relationship. We only met at his apartment. I knew his profession but not exactly where he worked. He knew where I worked. He def was not someone I was majorly attracted to. But he was often the only guy available. I know I wasn't the only one he would see because he was into videoing encounters. (He had lots and lots of self-made videos).  Plus he liked multiples, and that's not my usual cup of tea. He also liked to smoke meth. That was the main time he wanted to see me. I don't do drugs. And to tell the truth if I had had more opportunity for other fbuds, I probably wouldn't have continued to see him. But I'm a chubby bald bear. Not that many guys are interested in me. And from time to time, I needed to be with someone. 
    But this was a casual relationship. We were definitely only fbuds. We never went out anywhere together, never had a meal, never watched TV (except a few bits of his porn videos or the videos he had recorded). Often I would text, and he wouldn't respond at all for weeks. Sometimes he'd text me, and I'd tell him I couldn't meet. Sometimes he'd disappear off the apps-often when he wasn't smoking meth as much. I don't think we met very often during Covid. But it's difficult to remember exactly. 
    All the dates are difficult to remember at this point- I think it might have been a year since I last saw him. But I think it was last October he texted me that he had been diagnosed with cancer. I told him how sorry I was. But it was a short text conversation. I didn't hear from him after that. 
    Starting in January because of financial problems, I've had to move in with relatives. It's not just  that I can't host, but often meetings from the apps occur late at night. Apparently not only do the girls get prettier at closing time-but chubby bears often become more attractive too. However because of my living situation, I can't take off in the middle of the night. So I haven't been meeting a lot of people. 
    I've thought about Harry from time to time. But didn't text. After I moved in with my relatives, I reduced my time on the apps for months since I couldn't often meet. When I got back on a few months ago, I didn't see him on either Growlr or Scruff which were the apps I used to see him on. 
    Last night for some reason I was thinking about Harry, and I put his phone number in a search website-this one in case anyone is interested https://www.fastpeoplesearch.com/ I'm not sure why I had never looked him up before.
    The website managed to pull up his name. Turns out he did give me his real first name. I googled him-expecting to maybe find his LinkedIn profile or Facebook page. Instead I found his obituary. He had died last March. 
    The news was quite a shock. So now I'm feeling pretty awful. I feel like I should have checked in on him at some point. While we were only non-exclusive fbuds, it seems to me that if I had been a more decent person, I would have gotten back in touch with him. I will say that it was in the back of my mind that he'd contact me again to let me know how he was doing. But when he didn't, I should have checked in on him. 
    I can't help thinking that I'm an esshole for not checking in to see how Harry was doing. I only hope I take this lesson to heart and work on being a more caring person.
    I just thought of a quote from "A Christmas Carol."  Scrooge tells Marley he was always a good businessman. Marley replies that "Mankind should have been his business."  That's how I'm feeling now.  
    Gman
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    + Gar1eth reacted to CuriousByNature in Neck chains   
    There are at least a couple of RM ads that show the provider wearing a watch on, ahem... a different body part.  Not a wrist in sight.
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    + Gar1eth got a reaction from pubic_assistance in Neck chains   
    I'm not much into them. But I don't like jewelry in general. I don't wear any rings, back before cell phones I was probably at least 25 before I routinely wore a watch, and I'm currently "unpierced" and stud free.
     
    When I was a youngster  (I'm talking really young-or at least starting young-maybe at the age of 5 or 6), I'd take notice of handsome men. And for some reason, I didn't like watches. I'd think to myself something to the effect that -that guy would be handsome if he weren't wearing a watch.
     
    Now I did for a short period of time in adolescence wear a mezuzah on a chain. It was probably somewhere around the time of my bar mitzvah when I was in 7th grade. But I had to take P.E. two to three days a week in school. We didn't have lockers for our clothes. We had metal baskets that could be locked.  It seems to me I lost 2 different chains thru the holes in the basket. And that was probably the last time I really wore a chain. 
     
    And even today I'm not that fond of pictures of guys with watches. I look at Rentmen ads and often think how unattractive I think those  watches are-esp those guys wearing watches with overly large bands or that are plastic looking and brightly colored. I also dislike the look of Iwatches. While I've worn watches in the past, mine have usually been unobtrusive black plastic models. And occasionally I've even worn pocket watches. 
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    + Gar1eth reacted to rvwnsd in Former Escort Logan Kruise Found Guilty   
    Moderator's Note: Let's keep this thread on topic (former escort convicted of murdering a doctor, for those who have forgotten) and quit arguing with each other.
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