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I may not (quite) be tearing up. But I can't get the dang song out of my head. It's stuck there along with "She's In Love With The Boy' by Trisha Yearwood. That happened to be her first #1 hit too. Both songs are from the 1990'a. Apparently I have a very specialized Earworm for first #1 hits. I was up all night on a project (nothing fun), and these songs kept popping up. And Ty Herndon's second (of three) #1's is also making an occasional appearance. (I'm repeating 'Living In A Moment' from my 1st post because that's the song and video and that made me fall in deep lust with him back in 1994-95). Gman

For those of you who follow stars/singers coming out, you'll know that Ty Herndon a country singer came out in 2014. But there had been rumors for years. Back in 1995 he was arrested in a park in Ft. Worth Texas. The arresting officer said Ty had lured him there and then exposed himself. Ty was also found to have drugs (speed) on him. Ty was married at the time to a female nurse. Ty claimed he was just going in to the park to relieve himself before the show. He was able to get out of the indecency charge and the drug charge was reduced through a plea bargain to rehabilitation and community service. I think the gay rumors persisted. I was actually living in Ft Worth at the time-in my 30's, closeted, and a total virgin-had never even Fr. kissed anyone (male or female). I found him totally hot. And even before the arrest I think I had a crush on him. I loved this video of his-used to think he was so handsome in it (still do). Around 2010 I was on a weekend with an escort. I won't name him as he's retired and still uses his escort name as a pen-name. For some reason Ty came up. The escort wasn't a county western fan-and for the most part neither am I. So I can't remember exactly. Maybe we were talking about famous people the escort had met in the line of business-maybe one of Ty's songs was being played where we were at. But I think I remember the escort could barely recall Ty's name. I mentioned about the indecency incident that at that point had happened 10 or so years before. And I mentioned the rumors or that Ty has denied being gay. The escort said-it's not a rumor. I don't think the escort and Ty had 'seen' each other. I think they were at a party together if I'm remembering correctly. I wasn't sure what to think exactly, but it probably fueled a few fantasies. Then 14 years later Ty comes out. Ty has said in interviews that his two wives knew he was gay. And that his band mates always knew. Ty and his boyfriend (wish that were me-actually I'd take either Ty or the boyfriend ) when he came out in 2014. Since coming out, he's done outreach with gay youth. I missed this totally. But at the age of 57 in 2019 on the 25th anniversary of recording it, he re-did his 1st number one song from 1995, 'What Mattered Most,' and changed the pronouns to male. I find it really moving. The title of this thread isn't sarcastic. I'm not quite there. But I'm close to getting tears with it. Even without the tears, I find it very moving. So I thought I'd share it in case people had missed it. Here's the original in case anyone would like to see it. Gman

Cooper, Thank you for the update. Should we assume that Daddy is still on the ventilator, or have I missed a post where he was weaned off? Gman

I've been wearing bifocals for about 12 years now-or rather wearing progressives. I can't remember now back when I had my single vision correction for near-sightedness whether I took my glasses off to read. But I know there was a year or two when I needed bifocals (progressives), didn't get around to going to the eye doctor for a new prescription, and consequently always took my glasses off to read books. When I got my first pair of progressives, the optician told me I'd still be taking my glasses off to read. And he was right. In fact I often take my glasses off during the course of the day. I really only use them for driving, or if I can't find something I'm looking for and need to really see clearly. If I'm at home and not doing anything special, I often don't put on my glasses for days at a time. I don't watch a lot of TV. Possibly if I watched more TV-on a television set positioned several feet away from me, I'd use them more. But since in general I don't use the up close part (the bottom of the lens) to read, I've asked the optometrist whether I could go back to single vision lenses. One of them said yes. But I'm uneasy about going back to single vision lenses after having worn progressives for over 10 years. Gman PS: The glasses are definitely off during foreplay and sex.

I still haven't made it yet. I had a semi-free day on Tuesday and thought I could make it then. But I was occupied until around 5. I couldn't start on the stew immediately because since I haven't used my Instant Pot yet, I had to wash everything. Then I did the test with water they suggest before the first cook attempt. By that time it was around 6, and I had tentative plans to visit a (platonic) acquaintance/friend around 8 PM While the recipe says it's ready in under two hours, you can reliable expect it to take me at least 1-1/2 times whatever amount it states as the prep time. Then I went to visit my friend and didn't get back until after midnight. I was close to making the stew then. But I decided I'd do it after I got off work late Wednesday evening. @sbguy -if you end up making it before 11 pm Wednesday, let me know how it turns out. Gman PS I'm not sure I mentioned it when I 1st listed the recipe, but it was from the Washington Post. Gman

There's tomato paste in it. My dear sainted mother (don't worry-she hasn't passed yet-she's just a saint for having had to deal with me for the last fifty something years) is a great cook( or at least was-at 85 she doesn't cook a lot. But when she does, she's still pretty good. You should taste her chicken soup. But one her recipes that I would eat but wasn't my favorite was her stew. It had a brown gravy rather than a tomato-y one. I think I'd like it better now. But I still prefer a tomato-y sauce. Gman

The main thing it was just such a shock to hear from him considering how bad he was about communicating when we lived within 20 miles of each other and then his total ignoring of me for the 2-1/2 years I've been gone when I tried finding out how he was doing. QUOTE="xyz48B, post: 2008748, member: 21441"] *Why are we writing “f*ckbuddy?” Sometimes my Victorian sensibilities kick in with certain words. Gman

I'm old as dirt. He's about 8 years younger. It was never love. As I mentioned in a previous post he really only was interested in me if he were drunk or tipsy. I once saw him at Diesel-a bear bar in Seattle. He ignored me totally. I can't remember if we got together later that night or not. Gman

I'm 2100 + land miles from him now. I don't have the option of moving back, and he has a business there. We really were only f@ckbuddies not friends with benefits. He only wanted me when he was tipsy or drunk. I would have preferred being friends with benefits. But I took what I could get as my dance card was not running over with names. He says he wants to visit. If it happens, it will be nice. But I'll not hold my breath waiting for it to happen. You probably aren't wrong. On the other hand he's been a bit more responsive on successive texts than he was in the past. In the long run it probably doesn't mean anything. He wasn't reliable with me back then. I can't see him being that serious about me 2-1/2 years later and 2100 + miles away. Gman

I actually did. He said he hasn't broken up with anyone recently , and he wasn't drunk. He said something about he had just realized what he wanted. Call me skeptical. Gman

To be somewhat fair to Harold (a nom de f*ck to protect the buddy's identity) it was only 1 AM for him due to his being on the Western Coast. The weird thing about this is that I had heard neither hide nor hair from him since I left the Left Coast 2-1/2 years ago. And I had over these last 2-1/2 years sent a few sporadic texts to find out how he was doing although probably none in the last year. But nary a reply to my texts did I ever receive. So I'm sure y'all can imagine how surprised I was to hear from him. To tell the truth the wasn't that great a responder to texts during our time together. He was one of those guys who only wanted me when he was horny. Otherwise he didn't respond very often. Now he says he knows he wants me. Talks about coming to visit when the grip of the Pandemic has relaxed a bit. It would be nice to see him. But I'm not going to hold my breath while waiting for it to occur. But it was awfully weird to hear from him. I was wondering whether he might be drunk, had a bad break-up, or something to make him suddenly think of me. Gman

This ended up being only one of those short senior moments. I had one last week that lasted a few days. I had made a grocery list and put 'scraper' on it. Looking at the list several days later, I had no idea what kind of scraper-or what I wanted to use it on. Then three days ago I bought some celery (which I don't normally do, but I've been thinking about making a stew in my Instant Pot for its inaugural outing). I was trying to decide between the regular celery and the hearts of celery. I was thinking the heart would need less 'scraping.' All of a sudden I realize that I had written 'scraper' days ago on my list as a substitute for "vegetable peeler." Well now I have the vegetable peeler and the celery. But I still haven't made any stew yet. If I ever make it, I'm thinking this is the recipe I'll use. Active Time: 15 mins Total Time: 45 mins Servings: 4 to 6 Ingredients • 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour • 1 teaspoon kosher salt, plus more to taste • 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper, plus more to taste • 1 teaspoon dried thyme • 1 teaspoon sweet paprika • 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes • 2 pounds beef chuck roast, cut into 1-inch pieces • 1 tablespoon vegetable oil • 1/2 cup no-salt beef stock, plus more as needed • 1/2 cup full-bodied red wine, such as a zinfandel or cabernet, plus more as needed • 2 tablespoons tomato paste • 1 pound new baby potatoes, quartered if larger than bite-size • 8 ounces baby carrots • 8 ounces frozen peas-and-pearl onions medley, not defrosted • 1 tablespoon dried minced garlic • 1 tablespoon dried minced onion • 2 tablespoons chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley (optional) StepsStep: 1. In a small bowl, combine the flour, salt, pepper, thyme, paprika and pepper flakes. 2. Place the beef in a large bowl, sprinkle the seasoning mixture over it and toss until the meat is coated. 3. Set a programmable multicooker (such as an Instant Pot) to SAUTE. Let the pot heat for 2 minutes, then add the oil and meat to the pot. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the meat is browned on all sides, about 5 minutes total, and transfer the meat to a plate. 3. While the meat browns, in a medium bowl whisk together the stock, wine and tomato paste. Pour the liquid into the empty Instant Pot and scrape any browned bits from the bottom. 4. Return the beef, and any accumulated juices on the plate, to the pot and add the potatoes, carrots, peas and pearl onions, as well as the dried garlic and dried onion. Stir to combine. 5. Make sure the steam valve is sealed. Select PRESSURE (HIGH) and set to 25 minutes. (It takes about 10 minutes for the appliance to come to pressure before cooking begins.) 6. Release the pressure manually by moving the pressure-release handle to “Venting,” covering your hand with a towel and making sure to keep your hand and face away from the vent when releasing steam.Stir in the parsley, if using. 7. Taste and season with more with salt and pepper, if needed. If the stew is too dry, add an additional splash of beef stock and/or wine. Nutrition InformationCalories: 553; Total Fat: 32 g; Saturated Fat: 12 g; Cholesterol: 107 mg; Sodium: 359 mg; Carbohydrates: 26 g; Dietary Fiber: 5 g; Sugar: 3 g; Protein: 30 g. Gman

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There's a site I've looked at for years that lists gay porn stars and their years in the business along with their films. I'm having a senior moment and can't think of the name. Can anyone help me? Thanks Gman

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Going by the 30 year reunion back in 2009 there are still a few I'd love to get naked with. Gman

I remember I was once looking at the Data Lounge Site. And someone posted that there was an escort/porn actor whom he had gone to college with. Gman

How could he not know??? Gman

I'm glad you asked. I was talking about @Mikegaite. I thought @Danny-Darko had changed to talking about Mike too. Gman

That and subway tile. Gman

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I know what you mean. I've seen that same backsplash so many times. It's definitely a mistake. Everyone is using it... Gman

Considering how easy it Is to find pictures of him, I have to wonder why he's hiding like that. I haven't really tried. But I have to assume that his pictures haven't been scrubbed from the internet. But since I don't hire him anymore, we don't really speak. And I can't ask him. Gman