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  1. It’s maddening, but it doesn’t surprise me. Honestly, the way I see it, I should be so lucky as to get hired. And folks have their reasons for hiring. They don’t need my judgment.
  2. I’ve never had a client ask to pay electronically. I suppose they don’t want anything that leads back to them.
  3. I go all the time! I moved to NYC from a place that doesn’t have very many gay bars and where holding a guy’s hand on the street (or even being nice to another guy in a “straight” bar) might get you jumped depending on the time of day. It’s nice to feel safe somewhere.
  4. Bummer. Maybe I’ll start a separate thread later to see who I can get together. Would be cool to have some kind of support system among ourselves.
  5. Thanks for the heads up! Also, where are my other NYC providers at? Would be nice to know each other and have that support.
  6. This is good to know. I've been mostly working with regular clients, but just when I was thinking of advertising for new ones, I saw this! Should I be too worried about "stings" or nah?
  7. It happens every now and then. I've had like trace amounts of blood after rough sessions, but never enough to warrant seeing a doctor about it. I wouldn't worry unless the blood was severe or it was happening every time.
  8. I interpret it as “you keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”
  9. Most of the year, it's Sunday. I always see a spike in activity if something is happening in the city (Pride was a big one, for example). Most of my business is during the week, weekends are so-so, and Sundays are especially light.
  10. I’m usually the one who keeps track of time. I don’t want my clients to do that. I’d rather they not think of the time at all—it gets them all in their head, worrying about using the time just right. So I try to find that balance of being mindful of time without being a clock-watcher, because the latter is just plain rude and affects the dynamic in a way I don’t like.
  11. You're correct, not a strip club—it's a leather/fetish bar—but they have different events like jockstrap night, leather/gear night, daddy/boy, etc. I'd say give it a shot and see if it's your thing. Those events are pretty well-attended, so I'm sure you'll find someone, if that's what you want.
  12. It is possible for someone to bleed from injury (doesn't sound like a period), and it's nobody's fault: it's just that a lot of trans men experience dysphoria about their genitals and that might prevent them from learning how to take better care of themselves during sex. In some men who are on testosterone, the lining of our reproductive organs can sometimes weaken, which makes it more prone to tearing during rough sex. This is especially true if you're one of those guys for whom testosterone has made it harder to get wet down there. A good lubricant can take care of that. This happened to me last year, with a client who did not stop, so I want to thank you for being so sensitive towards your escort. It sounds like that's what happened to him, it's definitely no one's fault, and he'll probably be alright. You two will have to work out how rough you can get. I'm happy to answer questions if you have any! When I'm not a gainfully employed hoe, I do a lot of activist work, including educating trans men on their sexual health. If you have a question, I probably have the answer.
  13. I always ask a client if they want me to supply. (I always bring condoms because I’m allergic to latex and I know what brands are safest for me, but there are so many varieties of lube out there!) Usually they have their own brand and I don’t have to bring my own. For clients who don’t have anything at all, or who are new to hiring, I already have a pack pre-made with everything I think they might want.
  14. Sorry that’s happened to you! Following this because I’d love to know, too. I’ve never asked for a deposit but I wonder if that might be a good idea. Every time a client cancels, I lose. I haven’t found any way to get around that yet.
  15. Men have attempted to pick me up at Chelsea Pier, but there are so many cops in that area that I've never taken them up on the offer. It's just too risky.
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