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This is a smart suggestion. Thank you @azdr0710  
I have not booked in a while, because this continues to come up. I feel as if I have missed a change in protocol. Mostly, in secondary markets. I find that providers are requesting advance payment or prior to the start of the meeting. I do not know of anyone who agrees with this method who also has a success story to share, afterwards. 

This is a smart suggestion. Thank you @azdr0710  
I have not booked in a while, because this continues to come up. I feel as if I have missed a change in protocol. Mostly, in secondary markets. I find that providers are requesting advance payment or prior to the start of the meeting. I do not know of anyone who agrees with this method who also has a success story to share, afterwards. 

I feel better now. 🤭. 
 

As if I was going to.

Hopefully one day you’ll come around.  

Your assessment is true, but the actual word would be ignorant and hypocritical. People in America Play like they are prudish and puritanical, but then are out here fucking other guy’s partners, Pnp, hooking up with married men/women, etc. that’s not to dismiss anyone who does, but they have the nerve to turn their nose up at someone who does sex work, but don’t think twice about putting a stranger’s dick or ass in their mouth who they just met off an app a few minutes ago. 
 
Last time I checked, that’s prostitution. Bitch 😆 (not referring to you, but to the American gay community in general)

The vast majority of my hires are when I travel. Providers should not discount this . I typically start contacting potential hires 1-2 weeks prior. They will then ask me to contact them day before , or something along those lines. I may be in LA but looking to hire in London, similarly when I am in London I may be looking at guys in New York.   
 

"What incentive do I have to unlock my pics for these people?"  
If you have enough business already, the answer is: none.  No incentive.  
But if you are looking to win business (the purpose of most ads) the answer is: lots

Speaking as a potential customer (and with all due respect), I find the idea of paying to see private pictures in an advertisement to be completely unacceptable. It is an AD.  You are putting it there to try to get business. I am looking at it because I am contemplating paying hundreds of dollars to get intimate with you.  Before I commit to a meeting, I want to see as much as possible so I know we are a match.  I think it is better for both the provider and the customer if I am better educated about you before we meet. 

And yes, a customer may be 500 miles away when we make the request.  Guess what? Customers travel. I always try to line things up before arriving, and that includes looking at the pics of potential hires.  A guy won't show me more pics?  Simple. I don't hire him. Next. 

Finally, the option to click “this user has requested to see your private pics” was added by the site to make things easier. I used to write lovely messages of interest, but they NEVER got any reply or acknowledgement, so now I just click the button.

I am in a client service business, too.  My customers are often demanding, unreasonable, and occasionally I fire them.  But at the end of the day, they are my customers, and I do what I can to accommodate them.   That's business

in pre-meet communication, tell the provider that....
1.  you are an honest person and will pay for his time at the end of the meeting
2.  you do not want to talk about money at the meeting
and than ask him to confirm this is ok......
you may have to flash the cash or similar at the beginning, I suppose, but always keep the money in your control (or in view in your wallet over there in your pants on the floor!)....... 

Never ever pay someone in advance of even meeting them.

If they are hosting, confirm if they live alone or have roommates. I can’t even tell you the amount of roommate awkward situations I have been in.  

I agree. If I send you my photo and details, you should pay me.

I agree. If I send you my photo and details, you should pay me.

Was it because your mouth said no, but your lips said YES?
 
Gman

He's model beautiful with the tats too...

what no kissing? he kissed the hell out of me on my hire, among other things

Well said. It is a topic that should be discussed on a regular basis. It requires balance and mentorship to succeed in any field. This is a sad story. Unfortunately for this model, it happened publicly. The real challenge is that it is happening everywhere, right now, to someone. People need a support system to catch them when they fall.

Is the border becoming more of an issue re: privacy rights (for US citizens)? Has anyone experienced this firsthand?

He'd be a lot hotter if he were 13 x 8.... He's maybe $150 hot ?

Totally and completely not okay:
 
1) He is using someone else's photos. Whoever's photos they are is being ripped off and exposed as engaging in a business they are not involved in. This masseur you went to can be sued for doing this by the guy in the photos if he ever found out. The masseur you went to wants discretion? What about the poor guy's photos who are being used? No discretion for him, whoever and wherever he is.
 
2) Massage websites only allow masseurs to post their OWN photos. If they ever found out he would be kicked off the site. He cannot put in his ad copy that the photos are not him, but "resemble" him.
 
3) Who cares if other clients have left 5 star reviews? By leaving a review you are misleading future clients to believe that this is the masseur in the photo. This type of massage business is built on photos of the MASSEUR you are hiring, and even though he looks like that guy he is NOT that guy. Don't be complicit to his deceit and leave a review.
 
4) Solution: Contact the masseur and tell him to do a photo shoot where he does not show his face if discretion is important. There are many great ways to hide your face, such as different angles, posing with your head to the side, using lighting to shade your face, etc. I have seen many masseur ads that want discretion use these techniques to accomplish this. They show off their body and other assets, without showing their face. A photo shoot of this sort will keep him honest. At this point what he is doing is dishonest and deceptive. For whatever reasons he gives, it is still wrong. But he can make it right, and keep his job by doing a photo shoot as I described.

ok, I'll ask what we're all really thinking......link?.....PM is fine!
 
while many here on the forum go utterly ballistic over the use of any kind of "fake" picture, some cooler heads defend the use if the provider is, in fact, trying to protect his identity for that "daytime" job or other real-life pursuit.......of course, it is hoped that the "fake" pictures are very representative of who is really advertising and that no other person is harmed by their use.......and it might be a polite thing for the provider to disclose the fact in the ad text (I may've only seen that happen once??!)......

I do not think stealing the identity of another for personal gain is ok.
 
There are ways to navigate advertising if discretion and safety are your concern.
 
He could easily find stock photos of an aesthetic that were representative of his own before stealing the identity of someone else without permission.
 
And you would not be reviewing truthfully. If you’re using RM, most users cannot see the text feedback you’ve provided or know how. So unless you’re going to give him 5 stars and answer “No.” per the “Does he look like his photos?” question, your review is equally as fraudulent as his business practices .

If I were to have had this experience, I would say exactly what you said here. Something like: I had a great time with him. He was easy to contact and making arrangements was quite easy. When I got to his place and he opened the door, I was surprised to see someone much more handsome than the pictures he had sent. In fact, the pictures were not his but as he explained they are representative of him without revealing his true identity. If this decpetion bothers you, you should probably skip him, but if you go in knowing this and giive him a chance, you will have a great experience and will easily overlook the photo switch, as I have.
Thereby giving a great review and a warning at the same time.
If I saw this review, I would still hire him if I was attracted to the photos even knowing that the person I am going to see is not that person.. Others might not but they may lose out on a great experience otherwise.

The only reasons I remembered what his ad said previously was because I thought what a shame he's straight and a top.
 
So with the extreme change in his ad, the only possibilities I can see are-when he said he was straight it was a lie-either to us or to himself, or being with men taught him he is actually bisexual (or maybe even gay), or maybe his ad as a straight guy wasn't bringing him enough clients, and he's decided to play the bisexual card.
 
Gman

Well said. It is a topic that should be discussed on a regular basis. It requires balance and mentorship to succeed in any field. This is a sad story. Unfortunately for this model, it happened publicly. The real challenge is that it is happening everywhere, right now, to someone. People need a support system to catch them when they fall.