Aaron_Bauder

A preference is "I like X, but I enjoy Y" more. Not "I won't even consider X." That's total exclusion, not preference. Writing off and excluding entire races based on race is racialized exclusion. White supremecy is still a major thing among Americans and American gays, especially ages millennial and up, who were brainwashed by Sean Cody, Bel Ami, and Corbin Fisher to only find white jocks with abs attractive. But American gays love to think of themselves as open-minded, progressive, LoveIsLove stans so they try to sugarcoat social segregation as "preference" and delude themselves that if they're just nice about it and hide it, that makes it okay. Whatever. I guess it's progress from the gross NO BLACKS NO ASIANS days. The sexual thing is meh (fuck whomever you want) but I'm disturbed that in the US, even in diverse cities like Los Angeles, *friend* groups are racially segregated. It's changing with Zoomer gays, who actually are as open-minded and non-racist as millennial gays pretend to be. In the meantime, I suggest black providers travel internationally where the white supremacy thing is less prevalent. There still, but as bad. For Asians, I dunno. Even in my extensive travels I've seen and heard too much derogatory anti-Asian crap. I don't know where in the West that Asians can escape the hate, but for hot black America gays/providers: go to Europe. You get treated there the way mediocre white gays get treated in America.

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I'm a provider who participates under a pseudonym. I also don't participate as much as in years past. One, my honest answers drew negative attention, with some clients here saying things about me and my profile that were false and thus damaging to my brand. Two, after nearly a decade working I think many if not most clients posting here are not a representative sample, but rather a self-selected sample. Much of the conventional wisdom around here does not reflect my experience, in ways both positive and negative. Positively, clients here generally seem more savvy at effective communication with providers, compared to most who reach out to me. Negatively, clients here also seem generally more high maintenance than my real-world client base. Not all, but speaking in general terms. Thus posting here is not as useful to me as I felt it might be when I joined. Would love to join a provider-only forum.

My ad states that I may ask a client to send an Uber/Lyft for outcalls, depending on the distance and situation. It's not an issue. Rarely a client asked to do this won't do it, and c'est la vie. On to the next.

Okay, thanks! It's 55523-- Hey! Wait a minute....?

Odd. There's tens thousands of dollars in my bank account, via the debit card that was connected to that RM account. So I don't know why there would have been a chargeback. But okay lol

Is this happening for anyone else?

Never worked CPAC, but the Republican convention was traditionally a great event for providers, full of the typical sexually repressed, wealthy, country club hypocrites who demonize gays, blacks, and libertines publicly while privately trolling for black cock and gay sex. That has changed in the GQP's Trump era. The country clubbers have been replaced with truly dangerous right wing extremists, who've also driven away the Young Republicans and with it the once-legendary fratboy party scene around conservative events. I think I saw a headline about CPAC's dwindling youth attendance over the past few years. Subtraction is no way to win elections, if you ask me.

Rentmen has a monopoly. They know it. And their arrogant customer service reflects their dominant market share. It is what it is.

Very poorly. Jerry Falwell, Jr. is preoccupied with damage control elsewhere this year, Miss Leningrad Lindsey actually has to campaign in South Carolina against a well-funded challenge, and Don Jr and his girlfriend have bought up the local cocaine supply like toilet paper in March. That's a cool 60% of the potential market share, gone.

This. Ask, and if he isn't amenable to it, find another provider.

And hardly any provider has a problem with this. Claiming that providers get upset when asked "questions to determine compatibility" is a combination of two logical fallacies: 1) reduction to the absurd and 2) strawman argument. Providers don't get irritated about mere "questions," it's about the type and volume of questions. For example, peppering a provider with 25 different obvious and repetitive questions that can be answered by reading the profile and reviews, rather than asking for clarification/elaboration on a handful of salient points. Acknowledging that requires a balanced, nuanced look at how we each can improve our interactions on all sides for everyone's benefit. But it's easier to introduce an absurd fake argument no one is actually making and argue against that instead, in this case to portray clients as blameless victims and providers as hostile and unreasonable.

Why I wrote "Reducing it all to a mere transaction is icky, whether done by providers or by clients." I don't think this website is any more inordinately critical of clients than it is of providers. This website and its affiliate are primarily dedicated to judging and critiquing providers after all. Much of that judgment is critical, and much of that criticism based on assumptions, prying/spying, one-offs, generalization, extrapolation, and commodification. Most clients posting here get to stay anonymous. Providers here regularly get named, exposed, and picked apart whether they wish to participate here or not. That comes with the territory. So to me, providers or clients who can't handle criticism, or who only see criticism, should probably avoid this website. This section, however, is called "Ask An Escort" not "Get An Escort To Tell You Only That You Wish To Hear." We could all just be phony robots here, but I doubt that would be illuminating or much fun.

No, what I think is that people should not make assumptions, as I wrote earlier. Plumbers are important. So are escorts. So are IT guys. So are nurses. And a plumber is still not an escort is not an IT guy is not a nurse. Just because they're all important doesn't make them the same, and they should not be treated the same. That has nothing to do with whether or not they're important.

I'm going to assume we're being cutesy here and do not actually believe all services are equal, and that none of us would seriously regard someone who is providing us with sexual intimacy the same as we would treat a plumber. If there is such a thing as a bad client, it would be those who do not consider the delicate implications and complexities of eroticism and who treat those who work in eroticism as disposable. A hospice nurse is not the same as an IT guy. Getting up close and personal with human sexuality (often under the umbrella of illegality and stigma) is not the same as fixing a leaky pipe, puns aside. The flip commodification that happens sometimes in these forums has driven providers I know away from this website. Reducing it all to a mere transaction is icky, whether done by providers or by clients. Off this website where sex workers encounter that attitude, it has made some suspicious and even hostile. Instead, we all need to be thoughtful, because this transaction requires care and thought. There's a reason serial killers often target sex workers. That's an extreme version of a bad client, but it all starts with disregard and disrespect. So let's not even hint in that direction, please. When you hire someone for intimacy, you should not treat him like just any plumber (cue the puns).