LaffingBear

Guess I'm an exception. Just shy of 65. And I feel elderly in many ways. I say old people things. I tell young people that they'll feel differently after they have more experience. Roll my eyes at young folk willingness to follow trends. Couldn't name 80% of the performers if I watched the Grammys,. I occasionally hear a phrase leave my lips that was a staple of my grandfather. I've been known to groan upon standing from a very low sofa. I can't stuff my face anymore. I no longer consider using my teeth as tools as I might have when younger. If I slip/trip and fall like a klutz, my friends gasp and make sure I'm alright... 30 years ago, they'd have laughed their asses off. Two years ago, I fell asleep sitting up in a chair for the first time in my life. I feel refreshed and accomplished if I wake up in the morning and realize that I slept 8 hours without a prostate bio-run. I spent the better part of my younger weekends in gay bars and clubs. Not only doesnt the bar scene interest me anymore, I cringe at the idea of being one of the old guys I used to see sitting at the bar. Even 6-8 years ago, I was perusing Grindr when traveling. My last hire was February 2020, and I was sick with Covid 36 hours later. Now, I'd rather read a book than deal with Grindr, rentmen, etc. I may not be infirm, or ready for the rocking chair. But, at least attitudinally, I've developed many symptoms of fuddy-duddy-itis. And the confirming symptom: I'm content with the other symptoms.

Many of the Red Lobster restaurants in my region closed about 20 years ago... probably two-thirds. None remain nearby. Last time I ate at Red Lobster was 2013, about an hour away. My initial reaction is that I can buy more shrimp than I can eat in a sitting for $20. But then I remember the biscuits. If there was a Red Lobster near me, I'd be trying the Shrimp feast, but probably filling up on biscuits. And, the box mix doesn't compare - I tried.

I saw Pan long ago as well. I'd guess he's the type of guy who'd stay in amazing shape into his 50s. It was an excellent therapeutic massage, and erotic. Probably the strongest masseur I ever saw. But I wouldn't return to his apartment in civic center. It was clean. But I hated the gel mat on the floor, the building in general. Parking. I'd hire Pan if he'd do outcalls, but the one time I asked, he said no.

2013?! He was active in porn late 80s into 90s. My experience posted above was probably 1995.

Fond, or memorable, yesteryear encounters: Dr Mike, discussed above Dillon, discussed above Marco Rossi - picked him up performing at NobHill in SF, offered him a ride when he was standing on the corner outside the theater.Took him to, picked up from, gym, bought dinner, and then did a session. If you review his porn work, can see physical changes - this was during a roid phase; he was in incredible shape, and actually very friendly, laughed alot, etc. Memorable also as one of my very first. Sadly, much different a year later.. flaked on an appointment, I saw him and he was behaving crazy Jon Vincent. A very early hire, I was very inexperienced and nervous. He was renting an apartment in SF during pride. I'll never forget, he could tell I was inexperienced. He stopped the session and changed it into giving me lessons in technique. Literally trained me in kissing and other actions. I was shocked and saddened when I saw him just a couple of years later.. he died shortly thereafter. One of my very first was a guy from Chicago named Jason (real name, he showed his driver's license) later changed to Adrian. I learned alot spending time with him... not all of it pleasant. I flew him to see me.. for 8 days, he was eager to see SF he agreed to platonic companionship punctuated with X hours on the clock throughout his stay. I learned never to engage in time on and off the clock again. Big beefy guy, deepest sexiest voice I ever heard. Could seem a tough guy, but he loved flowers, we went furniture shopping for his new place, etc. Some of my first Daddy feelings. Much more recent, a guy using the name Eric from Orange County. FitnFun. I remember him because I discovered that he was using fake pics while he was driving to meet me at my home. (I rarely used my home, was taking a chance. Initial meet at local Starbucks which many guys won't do, understandably) I called him about pics, and he promised if I was unhappy when we met in public, he'd just leave. Perhaps the best looking man I ever met, better looking than his pics. No joke, i was so surprised, my knees weakened for a second as walked towards me on the sidewalk outside the coffee place. And super polite. Saw him a few times, including an overnight . He just disappeared; I assumed he quit the biz. Fun thread, reminiscing.

I think its same person. Wildest encounter of all my experiences was with a guy named Dillon in Vegas, 98 or 99. I can't say I remember all of it fondly... started with major flakiness and my frustration, followed by several hours of incredible fun... and ending with an abrupt emotional reaction. He was legit in a Fox calendar and Playgirl; brought copies to our session as proof. So I learned his acting/modeling name in addition to Dillon Interesting thing - I chatted with another person.. either earlier version of this site or Atkol, who had similar experiences with Dillon, and he'd connected with another who'd had same as well. I think the guy had issues. But, whatever... the issues were bookends to perhaps the wildest 8-10 hours I had in this pastime.

I saw Dr. Mike several times. Including a few overnights. I don't think I ever met another rentguy so adept at intuiting what his client desired. He was truly the best I ever met, if judging based on knowing exactly what to do, and smiling through it all. I'd say I saw a few different sides of his personality. Mostly very warm, friendly, easy going. But we were driving through the San Francisco tenderloin when a homeless guy startled him, reaching into his window to request money. He wasn't just startled.. he was enraged and I had to grab and restrain him as he opened the car door to go after the homeless guy. The only way I calmed him was a warning "if you cause him to damage my car, it's coming out of your fee!" I took some of the pictures he used in ads, probably have them somewhere. Have copies of his YouTube on some old hard drive. He was a little too casual with his identity for his own good. Over the course of our visits, he showed me things on a laptop featuring his work on the wallpaper, and one night, insisted I walk with him while he spoke with his girlfriend on the phone, relating a story to her where a salesman called him by name - so I accidentally learned his real name, other job, etc. I guess that made him trusting; he was lucky I was a good guy. He got a little arrogant towards the end of our interactions. I think he had a very generous client who'd book a hotel for him, but not see him every night. I saw him for an overnight in a hotel he said he wasn't paying for. He told me he was so popular, he'd no longer be running ads, he'd just contact clients when visiting their area. I don't think that worked out, several months later, his ads reappeared. All in all, I still remember Dr. Mike as one of the best I encountered.

I'm in agreement with those who would have paid a courtesy fee to have him depart... no way I'd have paid full fee for services/agreed upon time not provided No way of knowing, but it's a little interesting to speculate whether offering partial payment might have elicited a more animated response., ie., snapped him out of it. Sorry that happened to you.

Everything in the southwest water system works together. While the immediate concern is flooding... if this event adds some water to California reservoirs, that's less they need to draw from Mead. Mead is having a good year, water level is rising. Rockies' snowpack, melt, is strong. They released more water from Powell than anticipated. And CA agreed in May to draw less water. Probably short term.. but every drop saved, helps

Probably not much effect. Lake Mead water comes from the east, Colorado River basin, Lake Powell, Rockies, etc. This storm is forecast to move through western NV, which is downstream of Mead.

I'm a bit of a weather nerd... and as of several days ago, one of the potential tracks was that the storm would hit my area - that's no longer likely. Still, I've been watching... and also reacting to all of the dramatic reactions. Legit weather outlets love to hype these events, but at least they're reporting accurately Social media is actually funny in its reaction. Posting that a hurricane will hit CA. The water off CA is too cold to support a hurricane. And, it will come ashore at the north end of the Baja peninsula which will also weaken it. It MIGHT still be a tropical storm (winds > 39mph) when it hits CA. So, strictly responding to terminology... the hysteria online of CA getting hit by a hurricane is comical. Also, it's been warm and humid in CA for a couple of weeks... so little storms are popping up everywhere. Every one in last few days "the hurricane is here!" Even if days away. That's just my reaction to the hype. It's still a serious rain event. Its the first tropical storm warning ever.. they didn't have warnings when it last happened 80 yeaes ago. And SoCal is not built for 2-5 inches of rain in a storm. There's potential for catastrophic flooding One good thing... hurricane picked up speed today. The faster it moves through, the less rain it will drop. Worst floods are when storms stall, dumping hour after hour of rain on one area. Hope it continues to move faster. Stay safe, SoCal

Not current, but reading this, reminiscing... every porn actor I was with was either very good or excellent. But I don't recall any of them charging a premium rate... so that's probably different. Knowing my own values and reactions, I'd probably decline a rentguy who quoted a premium rate because "I'm a pornstar, I'm worth more."

Perhaps things have changed If I was traveling, had a hotel room, I preferred the escort visit me. I felt more confident about security, environmental cleanliness, comfort, etc. 2023, I'd also feel more secure that there weren't hidden cameras recording our session. If it was in my home region of San Francisco, I preferred to visit the rentguy. In hindsight, I was with a lot of visitors, so they likely had a place. Plus, I reside in suburbia.. most guys weren't interested in the extra 40-60 minutes each way, or wanted extra $$. While the travel time charge wasn't unreasonable itself, it put the total encounter over my "willing to pay for initial meet" threshold; i.e, take a chance on first meet at $200 or $300?... OK, at $450 or more with travel?... nope. Plus, I never wanted a first timer in my home. (I made 3 exceptions to that rule, and one turned out badly). I guess I assumed visitors had a place. But I always clarified before booking.

Never say never, but I doubt I'll be hiring again. For a variety of reasons. There's an old joke that men make decisions using two different organs, but only have enough blood to use one at a time. I've reached the age that the organ in my skull wins out in every decision. I've become very skeptical, even cynical, of the rentguy scene. Why would any guy hire out in an age when onlyfans and online performance is so much easier, safer, and probably more lucrative? And the guys I see advertised all seem likely to be scammers... reading this board certainly reinforces that. I find myself reviewing ads, but almost always finding reasons to eliminate men from consideration. I like pictures but then, oops.. that one make him unappealing to me. I dislike certain listed behaviors. I infer dishonesty in the ad. Etc etc. At some point when, as a potential client, someone finds himself identifying barrier after barrier, it's time to acknowledge that the barriers are his own. The excuses simply mean I'm not in the right frame of mind to hire. Strikes me as odd... I think most guys chicken out, use excuses,when they're inexperienced at hiring. I am not, and was fairly casual about hiring in the 90s - 00s, a few in the 10s.. But environments, values & attitudes change; I'm skeptical that I'm still in the market for rentguys.

My experience is all fairly long ago. I'm not sure how relevant my experience is in the age of Onlyfans, Insta, Grindr, & videochat. Ive dealt with weight issues throughout adult life. While others cycle through gains and losses of 30, even 50 lbs, I've cycled through hundreds. I was fairly active in the urban bear scene 90s, early 00s. I frequented bear bars and events as the gay community was fairly direct in relegating me to the bear & chub scene. I recall being insulted when I accompanied a very buff friend into Powerhouse in SF. Chubby-chasers are, imo, much closer to urban myth than we'd like to acknowledge. I rarely met a chaser who didn't have some fetish interests: feeding, feeling smothered as a bottom, playing with man-tits. I remember one guy who only wanted to tickle the midriff bulge hanging over my belt. Guys for whom my size wasn't a factor at all were rare. Note that I distinguish between a daddy with 25-30 extra pounds and a genuinely fat guy; muscle cubs with a beer-gut Daddy were not at all uncommon. Strong memories: a few different instances of guys who were politely uninterested at 365lbs, but who seemed to not recognize me and pursued me at 230, or 210. One guy stopped visiting me when I lost weight.. that was surprising. In hiring, I felt it best to share my size when screening rentguys. I was only directly rejected a few times, and rarely felt insulted. I might have written about one here on the board years ago when a couple offering 4-hand massage rejected me in an offensive manner. Much more common was the pocket veto approach "oh, that's not an issue for me" but failure to respond in follow up, or appointment setting. While I'm sure I was screened out often, I never had an issue with guys who agreed to an appointment. No one arrived and said never mind. No one refused acts based on size. The topic arose once or twice in lengthy or repeat visits - more as health advice, but not in a manner that felt like rejection. I was active in hiring in 90s & 00s. Much less active in 2010s. My most recent hire was a very well-known guy in Feb 2020 while traveling; 36 hours later, I was dealing with very bad flu symptoms. Nothing since. So, with that lengthy post for context, my approach was to tell the rentguy in advance, perhaps as a defense against in-person hurtful rejection. But no real issues once met.