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nategrimes

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  1. If I may speak for myself -- this copy was not written by me, nor have I ever been consulted as to how I am described in promotional material. I am fully aware that some people may choose not to meet with me based upon what I have done in front of a camera, and I am ok with that. However, I will say that the studios do not speak for me, and what I have done in front of a camera is not always indicative of my personal sex practices. Let us not forget, porn is fantasy. I believe that the safest sex is sex that is the most informed, regardless of whether a condom is used or not. Direct communication and trust between partners is paramount. I take my health seriously, and the health of my clients even more so. If you have any questions or comments for me, do send me a private message. Very truly yours -- Nate.
  2. I've been fisting/taking fists for nearly five years now. Recently, I was chatting with a potential client about helping him open up and take it for the first time - he also mentioned PNP as a means to "relax." I think I can say pretty confidently that being high/drunk/whatever generally does not help one relax, if one is relatively new to the mechanics and sensations of fisting. Meth, for example, increases the heart rate, can cause muscle spasms/tensity, and makes it incredibly difficult to focus on the slow, steady breathing that is required in order to relax certain involuntary muscles of the sphincter, as well as the smooth muscle tissue deeper in the colon. So, unless you can keep yourself calm and relaxed while on powerful, mind-altering substances, I wouldn't recommend getting super high while exploring the mechanics of fisting - and remember, it certainly can be done without drugs. People do it all the time, no big deal. If you can handle yourself while on drugs and understand how to relax your body, then go for it. I'm not here to do any moralizing about substance use. That being said, my tips for fisting in general are: -Slow, steady breathing: I count to 4 (slowly!) with each inhale/exhale -Get used to pain: another reason why people turn to drugs. It might hurt the first time, but get into it. It gets better! -Use toys/go at your own pace: dildos and plugs can help you understand and become comfortable with the sensation of something very large entering your body. The measurements of toys can also be useful - I think a small sized fist is about 8" or 9" around (circumference). -TONS OF LUBE: find what you like. I enjoy a combo of Elbow Grease and J-Lube. Reapply often -If you're a fisting bottom just starting out, please do yourself a favor and find someone with small hands. The smaller the better. I did the opposite and worked with a giant set of paws when I first started out, but I was living in Maine at the time and he was the only one in town who was into it. Also he was really hot -Shit happens: learn how to clean out deeeeep. This can also help you relax. -Blood happens: usually, this isn't as alarming as it looks. Anal tears feel like a knife going into your bowels any time you try to push out with those muscles, so unless you feel something like that when going to the bathroom, you're likely to be just fine. One surefire way to reduce bleeding on sight is to put ice cubes up your butt, or very cold water. -TOPS - TRIM AND FILE YOUR GODDAMN FINGERNAILS! Even if you're using gloves, DO IT, I'm fucking serious, I am WEARY of getting to someone's place who claims to be some kind of FF pro, and finding dragon claws at their fingertips. Having long, sharp fingernails is the easiest way to injure a bottom. If you're topping, your nails should be nubs. You shouldn't be able to scratch yourself. -Take it slow: too many people think of fisting as extreme, or an act of domination, which I guess it can be. To me, it's much more intimate. Sure, I enjoy getting punch fucked here and there, but I'm much more a fan of slow, sensual movements, as well as depth training. Stay away from movements that feel too forceful, especially if you're new. -And finally, make sure you and your FF buddy trust one another. This act requires much more connection and communication than anything else, so do it with someone you can be close with, or at least someone who has a lot of experience. Hope that answers some questions! Feel free to DM me if you'd like to chat further.
  3. No rimming? No kissing?? Snooze. There aren't enough muscles to make someone who doesn't rim or kiss exciting.
  4. Aw thanks guys! A client recently let me know he found me because of this thread. Let it be known, I do love opening a hole as much as I love getting stretched out myself.
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