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  1. Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000
  2. Awwww! Wow thats the cutest thing to pop back in for. So ya'll gonna get me a twink in a box for real? Thank you so much <3
  3. I'm often called on to be someones first introduction to FTM genital configurations, what feels good and what doesn't, as an opportunity to be with someone who is patient and understanding before they seek out a non-paid experience. I love it. I love hearing from guys how happy their trans men partners are, and how I'm partly to thank - whether or not they will ever know it. It's part of what make sex work sustainable and enjoyable for me.
  4. Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn. To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.
  5. I really appreciated how the parents were played in the movie, I think they are some of the most emotionally complex supporting characters I've seen.
  6. Thank you!!! I'll have to check out God's Own Country. I thought Brokeback Mountain was cinematically beautiful but plot wise kind of a snore - even though I like both of the actors enough to want to believe gay sex between them it just didn't seem real.
  7. Probably depends a lot on how out there the escort is already. I'm ok with someone taking a picture or short clip during a booking unless it seems like they're trying to upload it on the internet, for that I'd better be getting paid or at least be able to screen if I look good
  8. What are peoples favorites and why? It's clearly become the genre of now with the back to back Oscar successes of Moonlight and Call me By Your Name, sometimes it feels like there is a new one every month, but I feel like most of them are too on the nose. Yesterday I finally got my moviepass to work and watched We The Animals. I had been a fan of Justin Torres' writing for a long time but wasn't sure how it was going to translate into a film. It was a totally unique style so intense but also subtle, so visually engaging but also emotionally grounding. Its the story of a puerto rican/white family in upstate New York, about family violence and messiness, about being part of a group and then drifting away. I definitely recommend it, especially for a depiction of what are very intensely challenging subjects in our society presented just as they are without hitting you over the head with a lesson.
  9. I've been talking to a bunch of people and it sounds like blockchain websites are the wave of the future. I'm not tech savvy to really understand 100% what is going on there but its using the same kind of decentralized system as Bitcoin thereby avoiding the part around being sourced as criminally liable. Most of what I have heard of is aimed towards cis and or trans women but hopefully there will be some sites that advertise men as well. In the meantime there is also switter.at an alternative to twitter as we will began to see adult content taken off social media platforms. I also got an VPN and an encrypted email at protonmail and I encourage everyone else to do the same.
  10. Sorry I just saw this. Zachary is right, if you want to advertise towards a gay market you should expect that screening is going to be a request met with confusion and rejection by most. Around the concept of that being because its not needed, I would say that's pretty complex. Male sex workers are DEFINITELY less targeted by law enforcement which is one of the primary reasons that screening exists - to weed out stings. As a trans male sex worker I would say that I feel somewhat more safe than when I worked as a cis woman with my clients, but I would say that has more to do with my growing confidence in negotiating my boundaries than anything else. Compared to when I worked as a woman I get more clients attempting to have bareback or anal sex with me without obtaining consent - but the overall power dynamic feels a bit more equal and I get less "scary" clients, more just pushy or shady ones - and those are of course definitely in the minority overall.
  11. Between A4A and rentmen I would expect about the same, for Grindr he might be expecting to do less of the escorting emotional labor, the full hour, the offer of a drink and a massage, etc. On occasion when times are lean I'll post for generous on Craigslist and accept a lower rate, and while I would still give amazing service it isn't exactly the standard I hold myself to on rentmen, although that tends to be more around schedule and communication availability rather than what happens when we are together.
  12. I like your blog - especially the item on transgenderism
  13. I love that. I know that the stigma that clients face can feel very dangerous and with all the subtle ways that society communicates that people who hire sex workers are deficit in some way, I can only imagine how it must feel. However, I also know that as long as clients stay an almost completely silent group the anti's will be able to ascribe whatever characteristics they want onto ya'll, and only smart, caring, and real clients will be able to challenge that stigma.
  14. Sex worker is a term coined by Carol Leigh - the Scarlet Harlot - in the 70's as a way to politically ground the growing prostitutes rights movement. Since then it has become widely used internationally in both advocacy and health contexts, and I think is the word that the AP is supposed to use. I like the word and use it to refer to myself in what I do, but I wouldn't expect it to be used within my interactions with clients necessarily. Since I have no qualms about what I do, I have no concerns with what I'm called as long as the tone it is said in is respectful. As a side note I do wish perhaps that clients and sex workers did perhaps bring a little bit of the politics of prostitution into their meetings. We are both experiencing a huge wave of criminalization together, and we are natural partners in fighting it. However, it always feels like a taboo subject to bring up. I suppose it isn't the hottest thing when the clock is running, but I wonder when and where we develop the relationships necessary to build solidarity together. Otherwise its just going to be sex workers who are out advocating against their own criminalization and the criminalization of clients second.
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