The very first erotic massage I ever had was with David in Seattle (his website is/was DavidInSeattle.com but appears to have expired--so I'm not sure if he's still active or not); it was definitely something I'd describe as a formative experience. The "massage" part took maybe ten minutes before he asked if he could "work on [my] penis" and boy howdy did he. I had the most incredible orgasm of my life thanks to that man.
I've had a dozen and a half (maybe more) erotic massages since then, and most were pretty good, but none of these guys really made the experience about my penis and the subsequent orgasm the way that David did. Am I maybe asking for the wrong thing, or not realizing what to ask for in the first place... or did I just sort of stumble across a "once in a lifetime" kind of experience?