Shawn Monroe

Wow I never answered this. From my end it’s multi-fold. Surely most of you have seen the “Massage Types I Offer” section of rentmasseur with the options “therapeutic” “sensual” and “erotic”. I have an idea, but I’m sure most people (outside the forum) don’t know the difference between “sensual” and “erotic”. So most providers will select all 3 so they show up in search results. also, sometimes clients aren’t always truthful. Some say they want a massage but they’re chasing you around the room in a few minutes. (This isn’t everyone!) ive even tried asking what site they found me on, but some have asked for massages off Rentmen and more off masseurfinder. last, as @Lance_Navarroonce said, the two go hand in hand. Many clients do want some of of both; the amount of both they want is a sliding scale. so as difficult as it can be to determine what someone is offering, it’s also difficult to determine what someone wants. The websites don’t make it easier. the best to do is ask if someone offers what you want.

If you you made $300+ an hour and you had a boss, would you agree to take a pay cut from your boss if they asked.

There are ways to get around this - I go to the gym at 6:30 am, so it’s out of the way. That being said, I can’t take appointments after 10pm to be ready for the gym. either way I’m agreeing with everyone here - routine and boundaries are important.

When I was still working in office, my hours were set from 12-2 (for a lunch appointment if one came up), then 5-11. Once a client reached out and asked if I could meet “on my break time from 2-5” and I had to respond that I’m not just lying on the couch during that time; I was back in the office. just saying this to say that sometimes routine is important. Jumping at the chance to take any and every appointment can hinder other parts of your life.

analogy aside, some do it in a completely tactless way. First message will be “hi Shawn - looking for an appointment. Do you offer discounts?”

What if your boss went to you and said “I know your salary is this, but we are going to pay you less, for no reason. Will you take it?”

He said “lurk this sub” like we aren’t here in broad daylight. I live.

Yeah it really isn’t hard on both sides. To add to what everyone has said, COMMUNICATE WHAT YOURE LOOKING FOR AND DONT LIE. (Coming off that thread last week).

This is because of SESTA/FOSTA. how quick we are to forget.

This is probably one of those situations where I’ll get talked over and we probably won’t reach a common ground so I’ll see myself out.

While true in theory, nothing is more difficult than trying to give a massage, and someone expecting more without talking about it beforehand. Or hiring a provider, they offer something you aren’t looking for (or the opposite). or not bringing enough money. nothing is worse than trying to provide something for someone and they don’t communicate what they want.

Usually when people are looking to hire providers, they are assuming those that list on that site. It is the premiere site to advertise and hire from. If you’re worried about the validity of the .men domain, you can use the other - Rentmen.eu (or rentmen.com which should redirect to rentmen.eu) but they’re basically the same site.

My ads were off for a year, because I was going through significant health issues (still going through them but less now). someone messaged me and said “great ad, but why has it been over a year since you’ve had a review?” Besides the health issues, reviews are SIGNIFICANTLY hard to come by unless you literally beg for them. So they’re not the be all end all.

I can’t find the exact article, but it’s not just our services. Have you ever tried to give a 3 or 4 star review on Uber/lyft/whatever and they say WHY? So you’re pressured into leaving 5 starts so they leave you alone? anything less than stellar reviews impacts RMs business too, not ours.

And to be fair, I don’t always 100% agree with you on, but this is a topic I agree with you on. It *does* suck to be rushed out of a room at 11am (especially on a weekend, doubly so after Covid) and the only way I’ve found to deal with it is to book an extra night, spending $x amount of dollars - essentially gambling in the hopes it works out (and sometimes it doesn’t). it’s different when it is your livelihood.