Hey @playwrestler - I think that the best Headscissor experience (and body scissor) with an escort was Jeremy Lee:
https://rent.men/jeremylee
He scissored hard, crushed my head into his pecs it was hot. He's clearly muscular but isn't tall. So if you want someone tall he's not your guy... but I was soooo turned on the entire time. I told him it was the best scissor / muscle dom experience I had and he said that when he first got into the scene he was very unsure about it all.. but he's really worked hard to learn. And I would say it was hot.
Shredz did as well, but not quite as savagely as I wanted.
https://rent.men/Shredz
I've met with other guys. And we "wrestled" but it wasn't savage or like the fantasy (or some of the hot videos you see). And I've had dom experiences - not muscle domination, mind you, but good mind-fuck domination from guys who are buff. Mike Masters was one of the hottest mind bending dom scenes I ever had. And he choked me out - which was hot (no one else would do that for me, sadly), but he didn't head scissor me.
I've also been bear hugged by guys and had my ribs popped. I feel badly because I think I really scared one guy and he hasn't responded to me since. But I LOVED it. Sure it hurt for months, but, the memory in my head is so fucking hot now.
I have the exact same problems. I've met with guys and most are unwilling or don't know how. I try to explain to some before we meet how important it is, and even when we get together, but it doesn't always work.
I've almost given up, tbh.
I will say I used to wrestle with guys from global fight. I had some incredible scissor experiences with them. wrestled with steeltrap back in the late 90s (that was a great scissor experience) and I also was scissored by big calves (he popped my ribs and it hurt for two months - but I LOVED it).
I would love to find guys like beyondgenetics (or whatever his name is) I've seen videos of him knocking guys out with headscissors and that looks FANTASTIC! But I don't know if he does that scene any more.