Expecting a great time without too many expectations helps me relax. By the time we meet face-to-face and close the door, several good things have already happened: I'm attracted to him or I wouldn't have contacted him in the first place, I've showered and dressed comfortably and know I'll smell clean (without cologne that he may or may not like) and that I'll taste good, I've communicated already that I want to top or bottom so he knows how to prepare, and I'm on time & found his place. I slip the envelope onto a dresser within plain sight without saying anything to get that out of the way. I don't prescribe exactly what I expect to do every minute - allow for electricity and surprises. Have fun exploring. Trust his sexual energy and experience (he's the pro!) and look forward to learning from him and with him. If small talk happens right away, cool - if it doesn't, no problem. A "thank's for seeing me," or "I'm glad our scheduling worked out," or even an honest, "Hey, I'm always nervous at first," could help you relax and give him a chance to do what he has learned to do to help guys relax. And you don't have to say anything at all, that initial hug or kiss - if you haven't shared a hug and welcome kiss the minute you stepped in, now's the time. Have fun!