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There is another side to the story - absolutely, but out of respect for the forum, myself, and those individuals involved or exposed in the matter - I'd prefer to just let it go, and move forward being I'm very sorry to all of you on the forum had to see that sort of nastiness take place, and do regret terribly with all sincerity that such disturbing occurrences happened behind-the-scenes gone public on purpose. I don't know what to say other then I'm terribly sorry, you guys that such disturbing actions and disagreements that were behind-the-scenes had to go public, but with no fault of my own as I need to make that clear - it wasn't my doing whatsoever. However, the drama is over, long, done, and finished. Like to move on with my life with a positive outlook here on the forum start new without harboring of the past occurrences that weren't so pleasant such as what's in the posted link.

LOL. Well Jock, let's be real here, baby - as much I would love to let haters have it like these women displayed in your post, I still need to uphold myself as a classy guy no matter what anyone says or think about me negatively anymore. I have learned at this point in my life to just let people say what they're gonna say, and move on as it isn't worth the headache and hassle to debate with people who are out to intentionally hurt others for whatever reason that is irrelevant and petty. I know I am a genuine person with a good, and kind heart - that's all that matters. I have faults as well, and not perfect in anyway, but I'm one who don't believe in potentially hurting people just for the sake of proving a point to myself. It's not in my nature to do so, and could never see myself acting out like these women(even though you may wanna give a mean-girl a piece of your mind when they get out of hand), but then again, gotta remain a man of class. http://malialitman.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/revenge.jpg

Very true indeed. Thanks for pointing that out. William. Appreciate it.

Thanks Killian - you and Dom's post give me an idea being I like how you formulate and separate who are your "real" friends and who are more associates. Honestly, I need to start screening who I call friends more carefully, and not be so much of an open book when it comes to just accepting anyone as a "friend" in my life. I'm starting to realize not everybody is meant to a friend or have the qualities of what you looking for in one. True friendship develope over time, even years in order to determine if they're a good fit in that department. So, maybe it's good for from now on to just ease up on accepting anyone as a friend. Good post you guys. Very beneficial. .

I don't think danger harm wise, but he could get(if not already) a bad reputation for being a racist based on his refusal to service Black men in his Rentmen.com ad. I'm surprise Rentmen.com would allow someone to state such discrimination on there site in the first place.

+1. I'm with you, and Strafe all the way.

Hey Buddy, Long time no see. Everything you have said makes sense, and will think long and hard about what you said which is dead on correct to what I've been feeling about my friend, and his "compensation behavior". ;) The reason I was considering on dismissing the client is because I know it was true as to why he stopped seeing me being he admitted he took in what told him for which he should know I don't do drugs, and it was wrong for my client to dismiss in a arrogant manner like he did by voiding me. I feel at this point he is only seeing me on the count of my friend making him uncomfortable in they're past meetings with his unprofessionalism bragging. If it wasn't for my friend failing him - he wouldn't be seeing me right now til this day. . However, I get what your saying and will consider your advice, and words of wisdom which are good points and quite informative. Hugs,

You guys are not going to believe this as I am so pissed off beyond belief at this point - I just finished an overnight session with long-term client of 6 years just now, and come to find out that my "so-called" close friend has actually been trashing other escorts(including me) telling my client that I'm a drug and meth addict. The client wanted a 3-way session, and asked if I knew anyone who I can bring on board, so I recommended my friend to join in the mix who was happening to be visiting me in LA at the time. The client admitted to me he saw my friend in Nebraska for a one-on-one session about 2 months ago for an overnight session, and supposedly this is when my friend told the client I was a drug addict. I told the client to prove that my so-called friend was lying I would be more than happy to take a drug test, and have the results to him by Tuesday. The client felt that wasn't necessary and have decided to dismiss seeing my friend at this point seeing he is cut-throat and territorial. Basically to have the client turn on me so he can have FULL access to the client. My client opened up, and stated during our conversation he was turned off how high-maintenance my friend was by shelling around of his past life with his ex-lover, and told him things that appeared he was bragging or trying to present himself as a one of a kind escort that everyone wants cause he has a big penis. I am highly upset to have found this out being I never said bad things about my friend to any client, and was the one who introduced him, and referred him to the client, and this is how he treats me in the end - by backstabbing me, and lying to the client that I'm a drug addict. Oh no!! I'm officially through with this bastard. What he did was horrible and highly unprofessional. I guess this is what I get being around people who are full of themselves like he is. . Honestly I think I am done with my friend seeing now he's slandering me costing me clients I recommend to him. I was informed by the client he voided from seeing me somewhat based on what my friend told him. That's ashame being now I don't care to see the client anymore cause of the fact he dismissed me on the count of what another escort(he's known for a lesser time) has said to him that wasn't true. The only reason the client decided to see me again (from what I gathered) is due to the fact my friend pissed him off in someway, so now he wants to resume seeing me again, and I don't know if I'm comfortable with seeing the client again after finding out he turned on me based on a lie. My client should know better to believe(after knowing me for over 6 years) that I'm not a drug addict or thief. I just hope I'm doing the right thing by cutting them BOTH loose. . What a swift kick in the groin this is to find out the very friend your unsure of pulls this stunt, and has been stabbing me in the back for while lying to clients on me about my persona as an escort who does drugs.

I agree, Dom and can understand your frustration behind this matter - Being of an African-American (who happens to be of an escort) it offends me deeply indeed that an escort would discriminate towards minorities. It's very sad, but I do hope one day his views about black people will change as no one I don't care what race you are is better then any race as we as people are all the same in this world. Maybe from this post members here on the forum can deeply realize from this experience that being Black still is a struggle in America seeing how we're judged, rejected or persecuted in some way, shape or form. Just cause the world puts us to shame for being what God made us, don't mean we have to accept such needless shame from others. However, I glad there are people on the forum and outside of the forum who are more "open-minded" and not see a persons color as a reason to interact or be as equal as they are. I know I'm one of them as I too see people as people, and NOT judge them by the color of they're skin for me to interact with that special person I may wanna know socially or sexually. Why limit yourself being you can enjoy peoples company in ALL races? Just doesn't make any sense at all whatsoever, and we as escorts need to be more open-minded then this as I feel sorry for this young man viewing Blacks in a negative way by not taking Black clients, and to state harshly "No Blacks". Very upsetting to see in the escorting community in today society being how WE as gay people are also discriminated and here who have Gays discriminating towards each other. I mean - Come on - Really? It's mindboggling to me on how hypocritical that is to wanna fight to have equal rights as Gay people, but discriminate towards someone else who's a different skin color then you. Wow. Unbelievable. It's ashame see an escort/professional have such "rules" when it comes to race, but it's his decision, his business, his life, and we need to respect his choice whether we like it or not. He may judge me or other Black people, but I will not take upon myself to judge him of what he is which is a human being, and not just a White guy. There is more to him(just like the rest of us) then him just being another hot White guy. I'm sure behind the surface he's a cool guy to be with all the way around. Based on his post I read - he seems to be down-to-earth with a sense-of-humor which is good to see how he interacts socially. Just wish the "No Blacks" situation wasn't of a limitation for him. .

I agree too. You guys are absolutely 100 percent right all the way with all your suggestions. Couldn't be put any better way as to how I feel. Each day I'm thinking more and more on how to sort out this dilemma and put an end to this bragging business he's conducting.

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen Of The Forum: Hope all of you are doing fine and well on this happy Friday. As for me, I'm doing great as I'm relaxing enjoying a nice cold bowl of Strawberry Ice Cream, and watching Queer As Folk -Season 4. Love me some Ben Buckner(Robert Gant). My dream husband. LOL. . He's SOOOO HOTT!!! I think him and Brian would have made more of a hot couple on the show. What a hot scene it was to see on Season 2 Ben and Brian did fuck together at one point as a hook-up before Ben met Michael. ;). What was hot about scene: Ben was the bottom for Brian. Usually Ben is a top for Micheal. Not in this case with his hook-up with Brian. Lol. :rolleyes:. Ben does have a hot ass on him. Same with Michael too. . Anyway - Here is my dilemma, folks, and need everyone's advice on how to handle or deal with such a complicating issue I'm facing with my close friend, so here it goes (sigh)....... Have a close friend I've known for 7 years now who is also a fellow escort/masseur in the Midwest. We talk on the phone at least once a week, and even visit each other 4 times a year. Don't get me wrong, I love the guy - really I do, but he gets on my freaking nerves with his constant bragging how in well demand he is in everything. Without asking "how you doing - how's you're day going", it's right away all about HIM, and how clients are lining up to see him, ect. Sometimes I wonder does he intend to lift himself up on a pedestal on purpose to intimidate me or make me invy him. I think he's trying to make me feel inferior as it appears to me that's what he's doing at times seeing how he has to make the conversation all about him, and how grand he is to everybody on earth. He'll re-route a conversation we'll be having about a world events or working on our future goals, and right away he'll make the subject about him on how he lived lavishly with his ex-lover all over the world, and how his ex-lover of 19 years was wealthy, owning houses together, owning lavish cars, traveling around the world, knowing wealthy celebrities, Congressman, English royalty, ect. You name it - him and his ex-lover done it. I become so annoyed when he speaks or goes on and on about how guys outside of escorting chase after him, and hit on him wherever he goes to be his boyfriend. Proves to me he has low self esteem, and do feel he exaggerates a tad much as nobody is that lucky all the time - everytime like that 95% of the time in they're lives. Makes my head spin as it's pathetic to me how someone has to brag to such annoying extents like this. Had a heart-to-heart talk with him a month ago, and explained to him how his behavior in bragging to me or others can be a turn-off, and he need to get a grip on this before people think he's too high-maintenance or one who's a show-off. What does he do? Be on the defense, and say how I'm being too sensetive or jealous. I broke out laughing because it's so ridiculous to me of why would I be jealous of someone who has to brag to me or clients on how well they've had it in the past with a wealthy lover, and how high in demand they are client wise. I know he's well loved and in high demand by clients as I've worked with him in the past as he's really good at what he does, and am happy for him, and his success, but when you throw such success constantly in someone's face all the time trying to make the other escort feel they are beneath you or inferior - to me, that's going way overboard, and is considered as bragging in my opinion. Some may ask "Have you talk to your friend, and told him how you feel about his behavior"? Some may say " Maybe he doesn't see or is aware he's bragging being he's sharing his life experiences with you as a friend". Both maybe true, and he maybe sharing his life experiences, yes, but there is a difference in sharing your life experiences, and just plain being a show-off intentionally on purpose to prove to someone how well you have it made in life in and out of escorting. What do you guys think I should do about my bragging friend? Should I be firm, and confront him again on how uncomfortable it makes me feel of him bragging too much or cut him loose? May the suggestions begin........:).............

Awesome guy. He's a good friend of mine, and excellent masseur as we've worked together a few times. Not only is he hot to look at, but he's hot in bedroom too. WOOF. ;) Highly recommended!!!! Call him as you won't be disappointed.

+1:D:D

I think that's a question that should be asked of everyone who replied on this thread with different outlooks, and not just me as I replied on different post is that taking the "high road" is best. Some people think vengeance another answer, some say it's best to forgive, but not forget. Isn't just me. I say it's best in the end to take the "high road" forgive, and forget without creating vengeance of any kind. Like you said, isn't worth holding onto the negativity.

There is another thread with the same title for some reason: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/do-you-forgive-and-forget-or-hold-a-grudge.111276/#post-1051865