So, I rarely ever post my thoughts and always think about wanting to join in on some here and there...this particular thread is right up my alley. There are a lot of new names and faces (escorts) that I don't even know anymore, the "business" is in many ways completely unrecognizable especially how people interact now. I really despise the hook up apps...they've turned our community upside down even though meeting is easier than ever before. Unfortunately, it's killed interpersonal communication skills especially with kids who grew up with technology their entire life. Getting to my point there is something to be said about the BFE that I have enjoyed tremendously over the years since I began and that 's connecting. It was and has always been about authenticity for me personally. In my 30's as a gay man I have learned that communication and being authentic as opposed to being young and manipulative has always been the better choice. It's impossible to have a great time with anyone if you aren't enjoying the company of one another. I have always tried to extend the guys looking for an hour...because you can't truly get a valuable experience in and out (pun intended.) These encounters for me have nothing to do with past relationships. I was ALWAYS horrible at picking boyfriends out but as "Ryan" I had some of the most surprising experiences. The "how" do I prepare myself for this request has continuously evolved with age. Now, almost never do I like having conversations via email or text. If it makes a person feel more comfortable of course I am more than obliged but I would rather meet face to face in a hotel bar downstairs for a drink or in their living and start from there and if it doesn't work out well that's okay too. I think part of that is from the impersonal conversations it sometimes feels we are living in our day to day online and chat texts. If it doesn't work out in the first 5 minutes of meeting someone isn't better to just walk away and not hurt someone's feelings in my opinion...especially if there is no connection. Of course that being said we have all experienced emotionless sex and had a great one night stand. I don't pretend to be in my 20's any longer nor do I wish them back either. I love feeling comfortable in my own skin and experiencing deeper level connections much more. Sure, it can be fun every once in while but to me personally this is more enjoyable. However, one thing that lately has become taxing with the BFE are the situations when people fall in love and have to walk away. I made a commitment many years ago to myself that I would never intentionally hurt anyone with the kind of power that escorts can sometimes have over others. I wish we were all more capable of just enjoying the moment and not making such a big deal whether we can keep that person selfishly in our life beyond the present. I have always been grateful and appreciative of the small window of time that some have allowed me to occupy in for that moment whether it be a short lived or "longer" term.
So, I rarely ever post my thoughts and always think about wanting to join in on some here and there...this particular thread is right up my alley. There are a lot of new names and faces (escorts) that I don't even know anymore, the "business" is in many ways completely unrecognizable especially how people interact now. I really despise the hook up apps...they've turned our community upside down even though meeting is easier than ever before. Unfortunately, it's killed interpersonal communication skills especially with kids who grew up with technology their entire life. Getting to my point there is something to be said about the BFE that I have enjoyed tremendously over the years since I began and that 's connecting. It was and has always been about authenticity for me personally. In my 30's as a gay man I have learned that communication and being authentic as opposed to being young and manipulative has always been the better choice. It's impossible to have a great time with anyone if you aren't enjoying the company of one another. I have always tried to extend the guys looking for an hour...because you can't truly get a valuable experience in and out (pun intended.) These encounters for me have nothing to do with past relationships. I was ALWAYS horrible at picking boyfriends out but as "Ryan" I had some of the most surprising experiences. The "how" do I prepare myself for this request has continuously evolved with age. Now, almost never do I like having conversations via email or text. If it makes a person feel more comfortable of course I am more than obliged but I would rather meet face to face in a hotel bar downstairs for a drink or in their living and start from there and if it doesn't work out well that's okay too. I think part of that is from the impersonal conversations it sometimes feels we are living in our day to day online and chat texts. If it doesn't work out in the first 5 minutes of meeting someone isn't better to just walk away and not hurt someone's feelings in my opinion...especially if there is no connection. Of course that being said we have all experienced emotionless sex and had a great one night stand. I don't pretend to be in my 20's any longer nor do I wish them back either. I love feeling comfortable in my own skin and experiencing deeper level connections much more. Sure, it can be fun every once in while but to me personally this is more enjoyable. However, one thing that lately has become taxing with the BFE are the situations when people fall in love and have to walk away. I made a commitment many years ago to myself that I would never intentionally hurt anyone with the kind of power that escorts can sometimes have over others. I wish we were all more capable of just enjoying the moment and not making such a big deal whether we can keep that person selfishly in our life beyond the present. I have always been grateful and appreciative of the small window of time that some have allowed me to occupy in for that moment whether it be a short lived or "longer" term.
